ERC, As tempting as it would be to try to get him fired, I think it would backfire. Until someone has been through a betrayal they don't understand the pain we go through. If you were to "out" their affair you might look like the pathetic rejected husband trying to get revenge, and he would probably still have his job. Believe me I can relate to wanting to hurt and humiliate the OP. I just keep telling myself to take the high road and not lower myself to her standards. I don't want to do anything that may come back to haunt me or embarass my children. I also wouldn't want to give my spouse anything else to "blame" me for. Remember in her eyes right now, he is perfect.
Also about the grilling I too always tell everything. I have a hard time being mysterious. Why do they always want to know all about us, but do not always wanting to share with us? Hang in there and just know that you will never regret trying to save your M and family either way it goes. Just remember we have to work on ourselves!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
