Thanks everyone for the feedback, I knew not doing anything about the A was the right answer. But I had to still throw the question out there.
Well tonight was some what eventful. We went to dinner with my in-laws and you could cut the tension between my wife and I with a knife. On the way home my W says "This is all I have to give rightnow". I say to myself well you are not giving a freakin thing, so it can only get better. She then said that we needed to talk and figureout or sitch because the tension is effecting our girls. I think to myself No kidding, are you just now seeing this??? Well I did not want to have this conversation in the car with the girls in the back seat so I stayed quiet she asked if I had anything to say. To which I told her yes but not with the kids in the car. So once we got home I basically turned around and left. I told her that I would be back when the kids were in bed and that we can talk then.... She stated that was not what she meant. Not sure about that comment. But I just re-iterrated to her that I was taking off. I ended up contacting my friend and we meet up and had some coffee. I again told him that I don't need to try and figure this out I just needed support. Which is what he gave me. We talked through what the conversation with my wife would be like and what leap of faith is God asking me to take. Unfortunately we could not answer that last question. One of the things that I am planning on doing is praying over my wife tonight while she is sleeping. As of rightnow I can do this nightly, she is still sleeping in the same bed....Did I ever mention that my wife is beautiful, well she is.
So this is how our conversation went. First she asked me if I was ready to talk to which I told her no give me a minute. I then went into the basement and strapped on my old catchers gear. I know that it sounds like I am off my rocker but I needed to do something to break the tension. So I walk upstairs and into the kitchen with my gear on. My wife at first could not believe what I was doing but then after 30 seconds she had a good laugh. When she asked what I was doing I told her I was ready for anything that she was going to throw at me. Then she began to talk....it was the same crap. I never loved you like you love me. There is nothing left in the tank for the way I did love you...blah, blah, blah..... Same crap She stated how hard she tried over the years to connect with me and always came up empty. There is nothing for you anymore, you are only the father of my children...... When it was my chance to speak I told that I understood how she is feeling and am sorry that she feels that way. I think my validation stung her a bit. I then told her that for our kids sake we need to learn how to communicate and remove as much tension as possible. I basically told her that we need to start seeing her counseler together. She wasn't totally opposed to this. I then again mentioned her work schedule and that she had to stop running into work at the drop of a hat. I told that she keeps dumping everything on me and runs to work. She did get a little defensive about that statement. I told these where my boundaries. She still will not mention S or D. But everything else she is saying is that we have no future.
Back to my earlier question: part of me would love to see the SOB with nothing. He abandoned his family(flippin coward) and if he lost his job - that would be great.... I know that is mean spirited but this a-hole is tearing my family apart. He might be a Dr. but I still do not think very highly of him.
