Sometimes it feels good to put down OP. Awhile back a few of us on piecing had an OW bashing thread for a bit and it was a lot of fun. We got a good laugh out of it. These OP who are so desperate that they latch onto people who are married or seriously involved are really pathetic.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I can relate about the lunch "meetings". I get sick everytime it's lunchtime b/c thats when H sees OW. I onced made a smart remark in the midst of anger that he claims he's broke but has no promblem taking her to fancy returants! His comeback (lies, lies,) was where do you get what fancy resturants? Plus she pays anyways..lies more lies. I have seen receipts....
OW is turning up the heat.. She keeps buying my H little gifts and doing stuff - acting like she's his wife. What a B*#$%! I'm just putting 2 and 2 together and stuff wasn't adding up until now! This is all coming from a woman who complains to my H that HER H doesn't give her enough money to run the household!
I've been too busy venting here and almost forgot to report a little positive thing that has been happening. H has been turning off his cell phone when he's at home. Even if it means absolutely nothing at least I don't have to cringe every time it goes off!
Olive, the turning off cell phone is great. It at least means he is giving your some thoughts and being a bit considerate. Like you said, it is easier on you, meaning, easier to DB in front of him.
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
I've been too busy venting here and almost forgot to report a little positive thing that has been happening. H has been turning off his cell phone when he's at home. Even if it means absolutely nothing at least I don't have to cringe every time it goes off!
My W did the same thing with her music.....she knows it upsets me, and she simply closes the door (plays it when she showers) but it reminds me so much of the A and those dark months that she says "never happened". I was so upset with that (anger, betrayal) that I didn't care who I told when it was going on. But when she found out I was "investigating", she put on her lying face.....
Anyways, I'm just glad she is cutting back on that - I still cringe too when I hear it, and if it bothers me a lot (certain songs do) I will leave the house until she is done "reminiscing" her past......I know they have to go through it (it says so in the resources section), and all we can do is try to wait them out. I just hope I can last a few years through this and get a good 30 years in our marriage - I think its a good investment.
Right now I just want her to focus on "us" again. So I am not piecing, but I thought I was for a while.
MLC? No thank you, I don't need one!!!!
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Wonders never cease... H is having "breakup" discussions with the OW. I'm not setting my hopes too high at this point but at least it's looking a little bit like he's thinking about "getting off the fence". hmmm.. we'll see.. I know that I need to be very careful right now to not pressure him. I need to let OW go there - not ME
sol - it's so hard to be patient and wait them out, isn't it? There is so much music that I can't even listen to right now anyway... Seems like every song is some sappy love song!!
This is good news -it's weird how your H and mine are/were so similiar with the letting the OW down easy - don't want to hurt them but what about us??? I told him that week he was ending it with her - it still killed me to see her truck at the apt - just because I was DBing and acting so strong does not mean it did not HURT!!!! These WAS's can be so dense sometimes - actually most of the times!!!
Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10 8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth 2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home First Thread Surviving Separation Now Piecing
