The more I tried to keep my H and Ow apart the more they wanted to be together. It really doesn't matter EA or PA I truly don't think either one is worse over the other. The EA is WAY harder to get over - I wish my H just had a PA and he'd be further along - its really hard to shut down the feelings for OW...
Someone said on these boards- they are like teenagers the WAS and OP will do what they have to get together. They think they are this unique love - my h's Ow actually said they were soulmates (but then found another dude to boink when H was trying to reconcile with me - she lasted less than 2 wks without a man around...so much for the soulmates). They are in their fantasy bubble land and only when reality hits them will they really start to see the light. It's too bad they dont read the boards out here and see the 1000's of "unique" A's that there really aren't!!!
YOU CANNOT MAKE THEM SEE THE LIGHT -you can be the positive force for yourself and for the M but she has to want to come back - you cannot make her...
Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10 8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth 2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home First Thread Surviving Separation Now Piecing
