showed no sign of being unhappy or feeling "violated". I believe her, thus calling into question the simple blanket statement that a woman can't give sex purely as a favor to someone else without feeling violated.
I think that is a good way to look at the situation CE. It would help others here like Cemar and possibly teeshann. Two different situations but with some things in common. Doing it or appreciating it just because.
Have you thought about times when the idea gift sex from your W's POV, becomes duty sex or gift sex with some resentment thrown in? I am not looking for problems for you, just indicating people with good intentions (your W) often go through up and down cycles.
Oh yeah, I'm not about to let this sort of thing happen all the time. A gift that's given as a matter of routine becomes a duty. On the other hand, I'm not going to feel like a failure if it happens sometimes... it's really sweet of her, and I see how it really makes her day when she pleasures me really well.
After that conversation, I let a few extra days go by and then started teasing her and slowly upped the ante until I was sure she was nicely warmed up. (Thanks to too many board members to count for ideas...) That went a lot better for both of us.
Originally Posted By: DIY
Anyway ^5 on appreciating gift sex. BTDT.
Lou
An enthusiastic heart-felt "thank you" is the correct answer to any gift of this magnitude.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
