need a little encouragement

[RedHeadWife]

I hear you, I've been very, very close many times to saying that exact thing. I figure if he hasn't "figured it out" by the time he gets back, I'm going to be so used to not having him around anyway that I'm going to be like "there's the door; go see what it's going to be like if we aren't together, but still in the same town, etc. See what it's going to be like financially and only seeing the boys on weekends or whatever. Enough is enough" I've taken & listened to so much crap from him, I can't even believe I haven't kicked him out sooner. He has said so many hateful/hurtful things and then says "well, it's just the truth." I kind of feel like this year is a gift. For he and I both to figure things out and hopefully at the end, we'll be together. Sometimes, through all of this, I look at him and just see a total stranger. Maybe that's how he sees me though and that's why he can and does say the things to me he says. Maybe that's how we get them back, by reminding them of who we used to be and that the person they are looking at is still ME!! I guess that's DB'ing -- GAL, etc. But then I've said that to him before -- IT'S STILL ME, THE WOMAN YOU MARRIED!

Definitely wait until after the C session before you do anything hasty though!!

I guess I'm not ready to let go either, but sometimes I wonder why -- I mean for both of us after all the crap they've put us through -- why are we kissing their
a$$es and making everything hunky dorey for them.??