He is starting to see I am even more independent (which I have to be careful of because that is one of the things that started a lot of problems initially - he thought I didn't need him)
Oh ya, that's a biggie. We men want to feel needed, we thrive and relish being needed. If you're too independent, then we just get bored, don't see ourselves as being very valuable or necessary, maybe even get a little intimidated. The strong independent woman usually ends up strong and independent. There's definately a balance somewhere in the middle.
My W admits that she got off track, about 10 years ago when my brother died unexpectedly in an accident. She freaked out at the thought that she might have to face life without me some day. She was very dependent on me. So, unknown to me, she made the concious decision to detach, so that she'd not fall apart if anything ever happened to me. Well, she succeeded in detaching, and becoming strong and independent. I certainly helped her along with my poor behaivior also.
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I thanked him for taking my shoes in and said this morning that I would drop by after work to pick them up. He said "no dont' worry, I can get them later today, I have the ticket anyway". So I told him he was a sweetheart and he said "its no big deal" and I said "yes, it is a big deal and thank you, I appreciate it". He (almost blushed and) said "you're welcome"
That's great, very good. Let him finish the job, and reward him even if you don't completely like the way the shoes look when they're done. Don't nitpick anything! Just relish and be thankful for the kind deed.
We have to count our blessings!
Love,
COG
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There's definately a balance somewhere in the middle.
I certainly helped her along with my poor behaivior also. 