An OBVIOUS need for at least 1.5 bathrooms in every house.... Both of you sound good and that you are getting "there". "There", is the detachment you are starting to feel. I posted to someone else about the Advantages of WAS actually being gone, which I'll repeat in a minute. Sorry if I'm repeating myself, K, I think I told you or Nicola some of this already, and I hate repeating myself. I said, "I hate repeating myself"....plus, I worry a little about the adjustments we made b/c he left, and the one we'll have to re-adjust when d9 and H and I are together. But here are the advantages and some of them are not so obvious Okay, your H is gone and you have kids. Now, You have the remote control, menu control, and ...without anyone questioning your appetite, you certainly can "have ALL of that" ice cream, chocolate, pizza, and if YOU feel like it, in Bed. Chick flicks are just fine thank you very much, no one leaves the toilet lid up, let alone a little messy, and last but NOT least, there is no jerk is mean to your kids!! No one else sees your credit card balance to know what you spent on shoes, make up, a new bf???.....Ahhh, life is good.
Seriously, for a long time that was all I had for GAL and PMA. But it did help. I posted to a guy ("Speedwagon" who really needs support and a reality check from women, btw). I said these things in "gender" reverse of course, though for the life me, what could possibly improve with OUR absence??? Okay, fine. They can have their Days long marathons of football/baseball/basketball/ golf, they want. (Ahem, I do love football, but I digress). And leave dirty dishes out until you've gone thru them all AND the paper plates too.
Although I am in "Piecing" and cross my fingers and heart about it (too wary even to say "Divorced Busted") often. I want to know the UNknowable, about the future, past, etc. But is Not possible and can wreck my PMA, GAL and ruins my enjoyment of life. I worry about this being a real reconciliation, down the road you guys will have those issues with a man, not necessarily hour H's. I mean, we never will KNOW what is in a man's heart or what the future holds. But we have to be alright with or without them, and I'm just a bit ahead of you at the moment. I am grateful to have the challenge of trying to piece, b/c I KNOW it beats dividing assets and planning holiday visits apart...so sorry guys, but, remember that this too, shall pass.
(hugs) j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
