Did you figure that out and make that change on your own or did a therapist help?

I asked because it looked like you had a Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) approach to the problem (along with the ADHD meds).

You had this core belief that you were worthless (from FOO in this case). Forgetting things gave you an automatic thought that "I am an idiot" which feeds core belief of worthlessness. You may have had an intermediate beliefs that "if I can remember things without being told, then I will NOT be worthless." Changing the core belief directly is almost impossible. By changing your automatic thoughts and intermediate beliefs you stop feeding the core belief of worthlessness and there by change the core belief. So you realized that it was okay for your wife to remind you of things because all that matters to her is that the action is DONE. And you start to realize that even if you forget, it does NOT MEAN you are worthless.

Make sense at all????



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus