Well,
H turned 40 in June. four kids...13,11,5,1....very self absorbed. spending lots of money. taking no responsibility for his family..blah,blah, blah

Cause?? The baby I think...H has told me more than once that the only reason he had another was to make me happy...WTF...you don't want another child don't have one!! He is going to pay CS until he is 58.

Now that I think of it...H left xw when he was 30!

Who knows...I am beginning to think he is not a family man...H's dad is on his 6th>>>this is not a typo>>> SIXTH marriage! H's mom has been married a second time for 25 yrs now....maybe I am like his mom and he is unfortunately like his father.
I have said this to H...and BOY O BOY does it strike a nerve!