My marriage feels hopeless

[Heartbroken]

Good for you on not wanting to know the ugly sorrid details. The OW in my sitch - her ex H was friends with me and my H too. When he found out the truth (they were < 1 wk from the big D) about their A he went ballistic - trying to pull me into their vortex and after 1 day of hearing all the nasty details I sent him an email asking not to call or email. I apologized for not being there for him but it was to hurtful for me - I would have never healed and detached with all that ugliness. He called less than 2 wks leaving a VMail stating he was wanted to know how I was doing - but he also was going to tell me OW was at my H apt (which I knew was going to be happening - that was the POINT of this apt). I never did return his call - just wanted to stay out of the VORTEX DRAMA....

You did GREAT telling your friend you did not want to hear the stuff - it will eat you up and you CANNOT control her the OM or their feelings/interactions! GOOD JOB!!!