Yep, it's slowing down because YOU are slowing down, letting go, and moving on with YOUR life.
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I said, "trust me, I am a big girl, I can handle it but I appreciate the concern."
You get a GOLD star for that response. You hit it right on the money!
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Monday was good - he met me for lunch (he knows Mondays are my lousiest day - due to him visiting OW on Mondays in the past). We also had lunch together today, so that's a bonus - two days in a row. He also took my shoes into the shoe repair for me
I'll interpret those actions for you from a man's perspective, "I love you, I appreciate you, I want to serve you". When your trainee hunting dog does the right thing, then the trainer gives the trainee a reward. Get it?
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Anyway, he mentioned how good it felt to hold me and I said "do you think we will ever ML again" and he said "yes, we're getting back to that I think, don't you". I was tempted to say "no, I don't think we are at all" but settled for a "it seems that way", which he accepted and then fell asleep (leaving me frustrated as usual)
Oh Heywyre we are so much in the same boat. All I can say is that I feel your pain.
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And for all of you out there that say - "then you be the aggressor" - trust me, I have tried every angle under the sun.
I hear ya! Completely understand your position. I have'nt tried drugging her yet, but that probably would'nt work in your case.
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Why is it men always say they want women to be the "aggressor" in bed, but for many of us we'd prefer being ravished by some smitten husband who can't resist us?
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And what gets me is they say they want to be the aggressor but then they don't aggress
I tell ya, I just don't get why sex is so darned difficult for some people. Men AND women. I'm not waiting anymore, I'm letting go, moving on. If she wants me to agress, then she'll send me a signal, otherwise, I CAN live without it.
Love,
COG
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