For the first time in...well...maybe ever, I am considering printing out a post on SSM and giving it to my wife. You have combined two of what I consider to be major issues my W and I have: 1. Your wife's view of "wifely duty", which is, unfortunately, not shared by my W. But I've tried to articulate this view to her, albeit unsuccessfully (her current view is that if, and only if, both parties are "willing", then it's just 'sex' and she won't do it without "gritting her teeth.")Your wife's view of it is beautiful, and loving, and simple. 2. Your view of yourself is similar to mine, both with regards to how you used to think your AOS didn't "count" if your W had to remind you, and your self-loathing at being an "idiot." I'm ADD, too, and can be hard on myself when I forget things.
Anyway, I gotta run, but just wanted to thank you for posting this.
