darkblue, First, it's important to point out that most couples experience mismatched desire levels. That's the norm. Low sexual desire is also very common. In fact, fifty percent of the population has to work at feeling desire. Marriages unravel, not because of the different sexual appetites, but rather the way two people handle their differences. You are honest enough to admit that your actions could have impacted your marriage. It's certainly possible that your anger and misery may have led her to question her commitment to your marriage. There is so much misunderstanding when it comes to sex. That's why I wrote this book- to help people like you and your wife believe that it's possible to change, that you don't have to leave. There is a way to find a meeting ground even with unmatched sexual desire. Hang in there.
irish2, There is no question that there are physiological reasons people lose desire. The point is, with the information we have about how our bodies work, anyone wanting to boost desire can do so. Rather than sit around and wonder what's going on with your body, you need to be proactive. The book leads people to resources for discovering answers if they're experiencing physiological road blocks to feeling turned on. It's great that you found solutions!!! Michele
