I may not be thinking with enough empathy here....but I believe that some of our H's withhold sex to punish us...for nagging them, for not being as thin as used to be, as fun as we were in the beginning....So they withhold showing us 'love'. And that begets retaliation doesn't it...even subtle retaliation like not sending him off to the game with a smile.....and then the R spirals downwards. I think withholding affection is the most immature and damaging thing a partner can do. My H did it for 23 years and I will probably never recover. But if you catch it soon enough,I have a feelings Michele' new book (on order!) will help you fix the problem! Good luck, gd
