That's awesome that he will go to C! My H thinks it's a bunch of crap.
I am sort of in the same sitch, although my H is still at home. What I am doing is just acting "as if" everything is great & wonderful and just loving him patiently. No pressure. He seems to be coming around.
I'm not saying it's easy AT ALL, but like I've said before it's taken them a long time to get to the "I don't love you anymore" and wanting a D, so it's going to take them time to get their feelings back for us too!
No pressure on him. I know, it seems like it's still all about him, but it kind of is. As long as you are being good to yourself too, just keep loving him and showing him how wonderful it is between the two of you and hopefully he will come around. You will never know until it happens how long that's going to take though. If you keep talking to him right now about the R, you will probably keep getting the same answers. He needs time to get back to where HE needs to be in the R.
I agree w/ you on the dating thing. I don't think I would want my H dating others while we were dating and/or trying to work out the M. I would let that go for now and hopefully he will drop it. He probably needs more time to think things through too.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
