Hi all. I had been going back and forth between here and Newcomers (the traffic in there is better)...but I really think this is where I need to be.
This is my question...we went to MC yesterday and established that yes, my husband loves me, yes he is attracted to me (we did and still do have a VERY active and abnormal married sex life) but because of all my pushing, prodding and snooping, he doesn't really like me right now. He did have an A that lasted 8 months, and I completely believe the fact that he was trying to fill that emotional need that I had started pulling back on because I was angry about his work travel. The A was almost totally email as she is out of town. Ok...so that part is done.
So yesterday he established (after the MC appointment) that he does love me, but doesn't feel in love with me right now (duh). I understand that. And for the first time EVER when I asked, but what makes you think you won't look for those needs again, he answered - we could look all our lives and find different things in different people. I asked, then does that mean you're settling with me? He said NO, I know you can give me everything I need if we can just get through this crap.
So now, we're here, at what I think is an awesome spot - but I'm really struggling with his not saying ILY. He did some this past weekend, but is purposefully not doing it now. Should I appreciate that he wants to MEAN it when he says it??
I know I'm lucky to be where I am at - believe me...
