I rarely post to you, but read your thread lots. Want you to know you have got me thinking in a different direction on my H and his communicating style. That sometimes his one word responses mean a whole lot more than just that word.
Cathy -- I'm so happy if my thread helped you view communication with h in a different light! Learning how to "hear" my h has been the biggest challenge for me but has also presented the greatest level of reward...it IS an area in which I'm still learning every day.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Sage, I'm sorry to bust in on your thread but if you could please take a look at my thread "i'm new" in newcomers i would greatly appreciate it. Thank you
thanks so much for the great insights and suggestions (pam -- you were kidding, right, when you used the word "ditzy" at the end of your wonderful post???? )
Today has been calmer at work...I've been keeping myself out of the crossfire -- but haven't gotten much accomplished either. I do intend to change that!
So, yes, this person IS perceived to be a loose cannon, problem-child...problem is, no one is wiling to take on that as an issue...management (senior!) takes great efforts to work around him, putting the rest of the team through their paces to compensate for his crap. I'm tired of it.
I have three classes left for my MBA. I was planning on finishing part-time -- one in the fall and two in the spring. I chatted with h this AM about leaving my job in the beginning of September and finishing up full-time in the fall semester. It would be a significant change $ wise but we could possibly swing it. I have a call into our planner right now. It feels like a bold step that may liberate me from a job that drains the life out of me, gets my degree done sooner and gets me on the market in advance of the 2005 MBA grads. We'll see.
I've been hinting at posting some ideas re. communication -- started a thread over in the KLA section with that as one of my goals -- had lots of insights over the weekend, etc. Well...h keeps surprising and delighting me with the level of honesty and communication he's displaying -- primarily in the area of telling me things that I may not want to hear Over the weekend he told me about some things that I had done that irked him (little but important things like leaving the caps off of things). And just today he told me that he didn't think we could go on our mini-vacation next week due to his school work. He was honest and straightforward about it...I told him how much I appreciated him letting me know he was feeling under pressure and letting me know his limits and he said "I think in the past I wouldn't have said anything but it's much easier for me to tell you things now". Good deal.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Quote: I have three classes left for my MBA. I was planning on finishing part-time -- one in the fall and two in the spring. I chatted with h this AM about leaving my job in the beginning of September and finishing up full-time in the fall semester
That sounds like a great plan! What are your plans once you’re finished with your MBA? Will you stay in the same line of work?
Re: guy at work: Is this guy on your team? Why is Mgt working around him? Does he have a say in how you get your work done?
Sorry if the questions sound irrelevant; I’m just wondering why this guy can have such an impact on so many people.
We have someone like that in our area (although not in my dept). She has been with the School for about 20 years. She is not the most competent employee, is condescending, enjoys starting rumors, etc….Anyway, my co-workers and I find ourselves venting to one another about her and working around her because we know Sr. Mgt won’t touch her. She is a loyal employee who at one point was instrumental in establishing the accounting structure we have today. She held my position for 15 years and reminds me of it all the time. My boss, who is now the director, was her co-worker and tells me, “Don’t worry about it; that’s just the way she is.”
I get irked by her sometimes but tell myself, “Consider the source.”
Anyway, I’m sure I was of no help. I trust you will handle the sitch.
Quote: Re: guy at work: Is this guy on your team? Why is Mgt working around him? Does he have a say in how you get your work done?
Sorry if the questions sound irrelevant; I’m just wondering why this guy can have such an impact on so many people.
WELL...he's one of the founders of the company
Simply put, the guy is quite brilliant but alienating and overly emotional and often hurtful. He can't manage himself or anyone else so they've moved him around (once the company was public) so he can do less harm. right now he's the technical advisor on the program I'm running so in theory, he shouldn't be dictating HOW my work gets done but since he has so much influence on WHAT gets done that it gets blurry.
Today was a "good day" for him -- he was very team oriented, very solicitous, etc. Those tend to be followed with bad days after a bit...the good news, though, is that he's going on vacation next week.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
)
Over the weekend he told me about some things that I had done that irked him (little but important things like leaving the caps off of things). And just today he told me that he didn't think we could go on our mini-vacation next week due to his school work. He was honest and straightforward about it...I told him how much I appreciated him letting me know he was feeling under pressure and letting me know his limits and he said "I think in the past I wouldn't have said anything but it's much easier for me to tell you things now". Good deal.
