Ok, I think Im ready to try starting over and becoming friends with my husband? How should I go about doing this so that its innocent and he doesnt feel threatened? I really want us to be friends again before we move any further...plus I think it will be a more positive way to start our marriage over.
Quote: My husband of almost 2 years told me that he isnt in love with me. He says that I am the perfect wife and person, but just doenst love me the way a husband should love a wife. He says that he doesnt feel like kissing, hugging or holding me. OK....so he has been sleeping in the spare bedroom and says that he wants to just live as friends....ok, for how long?? I get mixed signals from him all the time!! I know for certain that there is no other woman...so I am just wondering if he just needs some space for awhile. We get a long good and hardly ever argue...I just want more affection that he isnt willing to give. He hasnt said anything about divorce or even moving out, but I just wondering if this is because its easier for him this way. I just dont know what to do..I have been reading the "Divorce Remedy" and am starting to just stand back and watch and act happy. It seemed to fool him one day...i didnt say good bye to him before he left for work and then when he got home, I chatted his ear off. He asked me why?? I said, I guess because I decided there is that I cant change things so I should just be living my life to be happy. Soooo, any advice or anything? Should I just give it time and hope he comes around and wants me again?
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As far as how to become friends again?
What will it be like when you and h are friends? How will you know when you've reached that goal? In what ways are you already being friends and what can you do to foster those things and/or build upon them?
be sure that you are not giving a different meaning to the word "friend"...if you are than change it to suit your true desire.
I'm sure others will take a gander over your other posts and come back with much wiser advice for ya.
thanks for letting me know how to go about these threads..I was wondering why I was never getting much response. As far as friends, I want us to go back to where we remember the reasons we were attracted to each other and start new. Its seems as though we have taken advantage of why we fell in love and got lost along the way...
Quote: Its seems as though we have taken advantage of why we fell in love and got lost along the way
great start.
in what ways are you already being friends now? How is h responding to those "new" "old" ways? how will you know when you've reached the goal of friendship?
We are friends in a sense that we can still laugh together and go out to eat or a movie. We are there to support each other (even though my H RARELY talks about anything to me). But there is just still something missing. I dont see that smile that I used to see from him when we wouuld talk. I think he has a lot going on in his head with his work and stuff and he doenst talk about it with me. I think that might be one thing that is holding things back with us. But I am not sure how to get him to open up. When I think back of when we first met, we were always talking, cuddling, smiling. We dont do that anymore...I try, but I get no response and I am trying to keep the "affection" to a minimum.
What exactly do you mean?? I have been trying to just be his friend, because he said he needed space, but its so hard when I get a sad faced H who hardly talks to me.
