So, Deb, you don't think you'll start a new post? Well, honey, we need you around here... your fresh perspective, so thought I'd start one for you.
Although no one thinks the OW situation is at all funny, when we finally get to the point that we can step back and find the situation funny, and have a grin about it, well, I think that is progress. Being stuck in the muck and mire of the ugliness of all of it is just TOO grim.
Laughing AT OW... well, I don't see that happening. And calling names is just a way of relieving tension. We ALL know and have been told numerous times that the OP is just a symptom... well, like rectal bleeding, that symptom can make you miserable!!
Deb, you are handling your incredibly stressful life with class and character. I know you, I know you would offer help to anyone that asked you.
Hang in there, girlfriend, and hang in HERE. Taking a break is GOOD, cause being here too much just focuses way too much attention on the sitch.
Your wonderful perspective is always needed.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Thanks Holdingon! And Deb you can't get away that easily. How are we going to find out details from the graduation party?!!
Quote: Well, honey, we need you around here... your fresh perspective
I agree...you've kept me going, when everything's gotten to overwhelming about H, you've stepped back with me and see the same things I see about H. In fact, some days you and Holdingon seem to know him better than I do.!
Laughing keeps me from crying some days. I'd rather laugh than cry...even if it isn't all that funny. I've think I've 180'd my H a few times with laughter.
OK, All this showing of love has brought me out for a tad.
Thanks holdingon, Cathy and Pam!
Quote: Although no one thinks the OW situation is at all funny, when we finally get to the point that we can step back and find the situation funny, and have a grin about it, well, I think that is progress. Being stuck in the muck and mire of the ugliness of all of it is just TOO grim.
Laughing AT OW... well, I don't see that happening. And calling names is just a way of relieving tension. We ALL know and have been told numerous times that the OP is just a symptom... well, like rectal bleeding, that symptom can make you miserable!!
I knew the people here that are close to me would understand! Hugs and kisses!
On another thread that was started today, I was accused of things and I don't have any idea where that person came up with it!
Anyone that knows me here, knows I have said MANY times that I feel sorry for my H's OW, she will only get hurt in the end, just like me! I don't call her or write her letters. I leave her in her own world to deal with my H.
As for being bitter; I'd say 95% of us that have a S that has cheated on us are bitter, heck yeh, not only is it degrading for us, but we live in he?? most of the time.
Yes, sometimes in chat and a few times on my thread I call the OW; the dead kitty because of her business. I'm sure I've been called names behind my back, and not to my face.
I beleive we are a family here, of course some of us don't see eye to eye. But must we attack each other, like it is a war. MY GOD!
holdingon, you are so right, we do blow off steam and vent. I thought that was why this place existed. Maybe someone should post the new rules here. I also believe in loyalty, loyalty to people here on the BB. Sometimes I may cross over the line, but I try not to unless provocked!
I try to help people here, pump up their PMA. And I'm glad that I have helped some people here. but I guess I can't make everyone happy.
I choose NOT to reply on the other thread, that is below me. Believe me I REALLY wanted to! I feel Pattie and I have done nothing wrong. Everyone has their opinion. And I think wonder and Ellie made good points on that other thread! Thanks girls!
I know the one thing I love about this place is the support I get! I would say most people would not come here if they were verbally attacked about something they say! United we stand, divided we fall!
Sometimes I do "tell it as I see it" But I hope I have never "dressed" someone down, for something I think was inappropriate. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can and do hurt people!
Thanks you three, because right now the worse thing I could do is run to my cave licking my wounds!
I think the operative point is that there is no need to try to beat someone's point of view, humor, or anything else into submission. Since all situations are different, one does not know what all may be transpiring in a situation.
Anyway, enough said on the subject. holdingon, I certainly do not want that subject to spill over here. I pray it does not!!!!
What does everyone have planned for the long weekend?? My plans are now up in the air. Some of the plans will depend on how sons gf feels. She had a bad car accident this morning. Went to the emergency room, etc. I know she has stitches in her lip, will be sore and bruised. Nothing broken!! Car is not drivable.
Have a great one all!!!
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
My weekend is not long, cause my kids start stuff on Monday and I am helping out with that... but today my son is having a bday party, tomorrow we head out of town for the day and Sunday I am having a party of my own here...
My older son is really starting to help out around the house. I am really trying to affirm, affirm all the time, trying not to get angry/frustrated with him. If I affirm him he really responds, guess that is his LL.
Lots of good thoughts today, I hope I have time to read with all these kids here!
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
