Regarding your nightstand, here is another practical question for you: I think your daughter is 5, right? What are your plans as far as storing your goodies? We currently do not have any goodies beyond lube and my vibrator which never sees the light of day, anyway.
While I have no idea where my W's vibe is, the only thing in the drawer is astroglide and a couple of these self-help books like SSM, PM and a couple others. Oh, we also have that velvet bag containing scratch-off cards. That was a total bust because they are really for people with "inhibition" issues and haven't mastered the art of HOM while telling their partner what they want.
Anyway, I do have a plan for the impending growth of "paraphernalia" collection. I have a hard, plastic photo-gear case that can take a padlock and be put either into our closet or under the bed. I think there are inexpensive gun cases at WalMart that would work in a similar way. I know that sounds a little too utilitarian. I would much rather have a velvet-lined, mahagony box with a lock on it. I guess we could just keep all the stuff in the Kama Sutra can on the top shelf of my closet where it is right now. D5 thinks she knows the contents already so it wouldn't be an enticement.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
In the name of differentiation, I have decided not to persaude hubby to read PM; rather, I will allow my mature ( cough, cough) behavior to speak for itself and set the way.
Journey-- who has yet to figure out a way to summarize 17 yrs of marriage and how I ended here.
Dave, Utilitarian is fine with me. Cheap is even better. I am not the type of woman who needs or requires mahogany boxes to contain sex stuff. Here is me in a nutshell: I would rather save the money and use it for vacation!!!!!! I love to travel and am always buggin H to go somewhere. Give me a plastic gun case (even though I'd die of embarrassment to buy a guncase, lol) anyday. As long as it locks.
Mel, You like the KY huh? I found it to be sticky and not 'hot' enough for me. It felt like body temp to me and no different than regular lube. Like, it warmed up to body temp and that's it. I suppose I was expecting to really feel some warmth! Maybe my body is weird..
P.S. Congrats to you for your progress and for being out of the preg/nursing cycle. I'm getting ready to enter it again for the third time!
Between the new arrival of InherJourney and looking at the number of "views" that some of these threads get, I realized that there are probably a few people who lurk but don't post. I've been so focused on myself and the "regulars" that I've failed recognize the fact that our (the regular posters') dialogs on this board might possibly be helping (or entertaining) others without us ever hearing from any of them. I wonder how many people simply read these forums besides "us". Any speculation?
This is simply an observation but I can now see how the cast of a reality TV show can forget that the cameras are on them. Pretty wierd. I wonder what made me realize this all of a sudden?
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
I just took a gander at some of the other forums. Man, I wouldn't know how to address any of those folks. They are talking about OW, affairs, dishonesty, and all sorts of crazy BS. And I thought our situations were tough. Though in the past, I used to be a little jealous that they had "movement" regardless of how good or bad it was.
Sorry for the weird posts. I'm not sure where my head is right now. Maybe too much prednisone....I've got to get off this crap...it's making me fat and weird.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
It's been a while since I've been to the other forums. The only one I visit regularly besides this one is the Sexual Issues one, although it rarely addresses any problems related to mine.
I think I told you that I'm going to be heading your direction this weekend. Friday night in Paducah, Saturday through Monday in Blue Ridge, GA; then, Okefenokee Swamp, Cumberland Island, Tybee Island for a week, Atlanta for a couple of days, and then back home. Let's swap wives, okay?
Hairdog - who wouldn't really be interested in swapping. I'd never do that to my ol' pal Dave.
I hope I did not make anyone feel uncomfortable with my voyeurism! For me, I had been struggling with this nightly hugging conflict with H that was driving me crazy (basically having to beg for a hug)and found strength and support from the principles of SSM and PM ( which I learned about here) and by seeing I was not alone in these ridiculous battles for intimacy. The good news is that I have held my ground and H has come around to offer genuine, heartfelt and comforting hugs these last few nights. It may not sound like much, but it is a start. Thank you all for sharing your journeys so openly... I am sure there are many others " in the shadows" who are benefiting from this forum.
There are many that lurk for a long time, and those that dive right in. We all have tough issues to deal with, some work out, some do not. But we are here for each other and that is the important part of this forum.
We laugh, are serious, even cry with each other. It is a community that there is care and concern, some preaching, but you take wat you went out of it and discard the rest.
Quote: ...what would a good initiation be for you? Are you wanting a physical initiation where she touches you or kisses you passionately? Or are you wanting her to say the words, although in a more sexy way than "are you wanting bedtime tonight?" (yuck!)
I am curious cause H always says, Just grab it.
This has never appealed to me and I don't know why!
...I was thinking that I could start whispering sexy things in his ear of what we could do later...
...He said that if I was willing to tolerate the cold oil, he would do it more often. I said that in the summertime, I'd be glad to do the cold oil but that in wintertime it has to be heated; it is already hard enough for me to lay there naked in the freezing air. I suggested that I go heat it up and he didn't want to do that.
guys like to be the aggressor, but they want to know their partner enjoys, wants, and needs to have sex with them. His request for your occasional initiation of sex, is just a reassurance to him that you really do like it. The method doesn't matter as long as the message gets across.
As for the cold oil, if he puts just a few drops in his hand at a time, it will be warmer.
As for laying naked in the winter... catch him in a mood when he's trying to please you and ask him what can be done to add some sort of extra heater to the bedroom. Then turn it on an hour before bedtime, so the the room is too hot. Now you have the perfect excuse to lie naked or semi-naked to cool off. Make sure there is enough light (from a tv or night-light) to make your body visible to him, and let nature take its course.
I've been a very bad boy...I could use a little discipline from Hairdominatrix.
HD, Blue Ridge is one of my most favorite areas for mountain biking. Gorgeous area.
I'll just keep my eyes opened for a man holding his D3's hand, and a woman with a leash around the man's neck, then I'll say something like "women typically can't climb this trail" and see if I get my ass kicked. Then I'll know it's you guys. Maybe I can set a "cache" for you containing a bottle of Astroglide, 49 weeks worth of Naughty Night cards (we used the first 3 but they sucked), and "Rekindling Desire" (a sucky book).
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
