My wife told me last night that she has decided to give me a second chance. I pray to God that he give me the wisdom, courage, strength, and the glory of his love, to ensure that I DO NOT FAIL IN THIS! I got to hold my wife in my arms last night for the 1st time in almost 3 mos, it was the greatest feeling in the world. We will take it day by day and I will spend the rest of my life showing her how much she means to me and how much she is loved by me. I thank God for the second chance he has given me to show him how much I love the gift of my wife that he has given me.
"Anyone who is among the living, has hope." (Eccl 9:4)
Wow!! Things can change in the blink of an eye can't they. If I remember right she asked you to move out and now she's giving you a second chance!! Wooohoooo!
She asked me to move out last Sunday morning, said she needed "space" and time to think. I went and stayed at some friends of ours house. The wife of this couple talked to my wife on Sunday might, all she told me was to NOT look for another place to live right away. Monday night, my two lil girls stayed the night with me at this house because my W had a meeting, at 10:00 that night, my W calls me and we talk for 30 minutes, no R talk, just chit chat, it was great. No contact Tuesday, although I did swing by the hospital where she works and I picked up her vehicle and took it to the dealer to get an item fixed, and on a whim I decided to get it washed and waxed, filled the tank, and I got some items from Sams Club for her so she wouldn't have to after work. Wednsday, I am at work and I get a call from a guy my wife and I know, he asks me if I am coming to small gruop that night, and then tells me that Jen (my W) said we were going together, I said "she did?" and then told him yes, I would be there. I got off of work early and went and got a hair cut, after my hair cut, I went to the grocery store to buy a few things, like shaving cream etc... and as fate would have it, I unwittingly park two spots down from my wife who also happens to be at the store. I go into the store, and I see her, but being uncertian of her reaction, I act like I don't. She sees me as well. So, I check out and as I am leaving I see my wife is right behind me and she has 3 of those 40lb bags of salt for our water softner, so I think " she's gonna need help with those" so I take a chance and wait for her outside and ask her if she would like me to help her load those, and she said yes. She says she's tired and she shyly ask me about small group, and I say " I am going to go, and of course you are welcome to join me if you wish." She then asks if it would be alright if she comes with me to the place I am staying and takes nap before we go to small group at 6pm. Of course I say yes. So we go to small group and it was great, I knew then that she was going to let me back into her life, but I wanted to hear those 7 sweet words form her lips. After small group, she follows me back to the place I'm staying, and we start talking and as she's starts crying, she says those words that were music to my ears, " I'm going to give you another chance." I said real quietly " Thank you, I know I don't deserve it, but thank you." She then said, " I'm not ready to jump into bed just yet", and I say back " Thats fine, it will be in your time, not mine", even though after finally getting to hold her close to me for the first itme inawhile, I was obviously aroused.lol. Anyway, so here I am, I want to be her BEST friend, and she mine. We will take it one day at a time, and we will start going to counciling together again, and I will continue my individual sessions as well. I pray to God to stay with me and guide me so that I will not stray from the course I have chosen.
"Anyone who is among the living, has hope." (Eccl 9:4)
Well it's been ten days since my W said she would give me another chance, things are going pretty good. She has gotten upset with me a couple of times over minor things, but my reactions to her when she is upset seems to quench any lingering anger and we end up having good conversations. We FINALLY ML and it was great! I have been having to hold myself back in giving her attention so as not to smother her. Anyway things are going well.
"Anyone who is among the living, has hope." (Eccl 9:4)
Sounds like you are doing GREAT! I'm happy that you have that second chance. Taking it slow and not smothering her is the most wonderful gift you can give her right now.
You are doing the right things and giving her what she needs. Good Luck, I wish you both the best!
