Lots of news. I db'ed my butt off this last week. The payoff? I got an ILY before he left for work this morning.
Woooohoooo! What did I do?
I acted as if. I did not complain or bring up R talks. I treated him like a friend...I made plans to go out with friends (for while he was gone to work) in front of him so that he could see I have a life....I went to church without him...I pampered him...giving him daily foot rubs....I got out of bed in the morning when he did or shortly thereafter...instead of sleeping half the day away....I stayed sober....I took my meds....when he talked about finances I listened.....I went to my counseling appointment.
We planned the decks for our house together...a sign of him seeing us as having a future together...my opinion mattered to him...I really am taking this as a sure sign that he sees me as being around to enjoy those decks with him....
I did not complain about him watching sports.
I cooked breakfasts for the two of us and made a cake that I know he likes.
I cooked dinners that he likes and stayed out of the kitchen when he was cooking. Yep! He cooked dinner for me twice! Chicken Oscar and Barbequed Ribs...yum, yum.
I did not say ILY until he was leaving for work....and he responded with a very heartfelt ILY 2.
He is also paying off two of my credit cards for me!
Things are good.
What didn't I do? I didn't ask a lot of questions. I didn't snoop through his stuff. I didn't try to rehash old issues.
I am so happy. I am sober, balanced, and STILL MARRIED!
And might I add that one of our evenings together included some melted Belgium chocolate and lots of sensuality!
Sounds like time well spent with your H! Another yeah for you!
Keep up the good work. You can stay on track. Remember what worked these past few weeks and keep doing it - the more you do it the more it will become a part of your regular behavior and less like extra work!
You go girl!
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"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
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