I told my H that I felt like I was not a priority in his life. I needed more. (not ML right away, didn't want to scare him off) Last night HE came to me and said "would you like to take a walk?" He held my hand the entire way. It was wonderful. Did not lead to ML but it's a start.
Great to hear it, Katie... I'm happy for you. Just remember that progress can be slow, and there WILL be setbacks (I can almost guarantee it). But if you really want it, you'll get there. Go, girl!
Haven't been here in two weeks, work/family has been too hectic. Things are going a little better. My H is trying to make an effort. Asked me out to lunch the other day. Also, asked if I would come watch him in a tournament he is playing in. We ML last night. The earth certainly didn't shake but instead of jumping up afterward we held each other and just talked. I loved that. I told him how good it felt just to have his naked skin against mine and he said "yeah, it was really nice, I missed you!" Baby steps!!! Also, and to every overworked person out there this is even better... H took over some household tasks. He is on wash, dishes, weekend kid activites, and yardwork. In return, every Sun AM he plays golf with NO negative comments from me and we spend the afternoon together. I will be starting tennis in two weeks in the same time slot. We each get something for ourselves and then something for us then Sunday eve is family. We are only on week two but this AM H was so excited to go, and he looked at me at said I love this game and I don't have to leave here pretending I don't so you don't get mad. Like I said "baby steps!"
That's great progress! I'm sure he enjoys golf even more now that he feels 'free' to go, and it's great that you'll get to spend some time doing what you like, too. When we lived in FL, my H golfed every Sat. am. Golf is the only thing I think he'll ever get up before 8:30am for (he only gets up that early because that's when the markets open). On Sat mornings he would always light up like a little kid on C'mas morning and bounce out the door like he was going out to play with his first puppy. What is it with men and golf?
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And just where does all that enthusiasm go when we go shopping?
