I talked to my 16 year old daughter earlier, and she said her stepdad was loading his stuff into his truck. I expect he'll be gone when I get home from work. He refused to work on the sexual issue and the financial issue. So, I'll bet he'll be out celebrating tonight because he never has to touch me again and will now never have to help out financially.
I know I'm better off, but it still hurts that he hauled ass while I'm at work after I got no sleep last night because of coming home to his packed stuff. He could have been man enough to tell me.
I'm so sorry to hear your pain. It sounds like this is for the better and if it's any consolation, I would say that he's a total bum. I hope you stick around and let us cheer you up.
With that said.... Come on guys lets head out west to Colorado and unleash a can of HD whoopass on him. Show him the power of a sexually frustrated man whose testosterone stores are so high that they don't feel pain.
COGal, I'm really sorry to hear about your H leaving, as I know it's going to cause you a lot of pain, but I think in the future when you look back, you'll see this as an important moment when your life changed for the better. I don't have much experience, and certainly NO experience with marital breakup (although I could be about to gain some experience along those lines), but I don't have to try too hard to imagine all the pain, heartache and hardship something like this can cause. However...
While it might be tempting to wallow in your feelings, it is EXTREMELY important at THIS MOMENT to take steps to protect yourself - you need to see a lawyer and FAST! You need to separate yourself from HIS debts and HIS finances (or lack thereof) and make sure he has NO claims on you. You need to be thinking really clearly right now, and I know that's not going to be easy, but you HAVE to, for your sake and your daughter's. From what you've posted, that guy is a first-class leech, and a genuine piece of work. I know it's hard to hear bad things about a lover, but I can't see how he can be like that. Anyway, be practical! Let the bad feelings envelop you later - right now you need to think of yourself! Please keep posting!
Last night was just surreal...kind of like when we were dating and I would wait for his phone call. Both kids were still at their friends, so it was just me and the dog. I did sleep some, mostly from mental exhaustion.
It bothers me that he just left while I was at work; it bothers me even more that he didn't even say goodbye to my kids who have been his stepkids for almost 2 years. The worst is our dog (chocolate lab) though. She keeps going to the window waiting for "daddy" to come home. We got her 2 weeks before we got married, so she's never been without us. Seeing her confusion hurts alot.
