My original post is on Newcomers(no response) so here I am!My husband and I have been seprated for 3 mos..We have a S10 My H han an EA about 1.5 years ago.I kept it all in, never told anyone. I got rebellous summer 03. I had an A for about 2-3 mos. H suspected but wasn't sure. He began being nice to me (real nice in Nov.). I was unresponsive. Holding on to old hurts. Afraid to give in. As soon as I was about to turn around he Announced that he was leaving 12/1/03. When he left I did the usual. He said that he can never trust ME again because he suspects I had an A(no proof) I never told. He said he will never be intimate with me again. I tried to seduce him and he rejected me. 2 weeks later he seduces me! What is goin on here? Since then e have ML 3x's(yeah)! I stopped calling him for about 6 days and he called me and said let's go file for a D. I said That is not what I want and I will talk to you later. That night he was in my bed? Is he confused or what? Tonight we had a Town Watch Mmeeting aand I told him that I am going to be aprt of Town Watch and he said if anyone disrespects you...let me know. I thought that was sweet. He made me feel safe. Are these good signs? Oh Yeah, he also said that the reason he had the A in the 1st place was because of not enuff sex and tired of rejection. Is it a good sign that he now initiates sex? Ideas and Help..............Please!
hi nitaf - sounds confusing indeed. what are you looking for, to start with? it will be difficult to articulate clearly to spouse if you are confused too. michele's chapter on goals is terrific for defining direction. good luck.
Well I have been making baby steps. H called me Honey and baby today for a change. he always use to call me that. I brought him a piece of strawberry shortcake as just a little gift of love. He was sooooo surprised. His cell phone rang and he didn't anwser.My 180 didn't ask who it was. I felt sad @ 1st because I wanted to know why he rejected a call when he was with me but I felt strong once I realized how big it made me feel to semm at least like i don't care who is calling. Probably made him say he she not worried about me anymore? He denies OW and i don't have proof so I will take his word until i have a reason not to.
