I finished up the SSM. I have been dreading giving it to my wife. She knew I was reading it, I told her it said a lot of things I felt. Also, it had the LD side of the story. The only thing she seemed concerned with is if I understood her side of the problem. Last night, I finally put SSM on her nightstand. When she saw it she freaked a little and asked,"Who put that there?". I thought it was obvious, there is only her, the kid, and me. But, I explained it was me.
She is a notorious excuse maker. I am a construction foreman, I am used to "eliminating the excuses" so work can get done. By the way, it is frustrating when 10% of the guys at work take up 90% of my day. She claims to not have the time or attention span to sit and read it. Although, when it comes to other reading material, she somehow finds the time. Her first suggestion is that I read it to her. Which will never happen, the only time we spend alone is the two minutes it takes her to fall asleep when she comes to bed.
Her second suggestion is an audiobook. I did some searching but couldn't find one on the net. Does anyone know if there is one available? I would really like her to get the info in the book. I think getting her sit down and read it will be like trying to push a rope. An audiobook may be my only chance of her absorbing it.
Hey Dunno! I agree that there does not appear to be an audiobook. Reading it to her is actually a nice idea, but two minutes a night isn't going to do it. I'm not sure how old your child is, but the time when my wife and I read to each other and really enjoy it is on car trips (of more than an hour, usually).
Just a suggestion.
The other suggestion is to say, "I can't force you to read it, and I can't create an attention span for you, but I can (insert here job such as watch kid, do laundry, make dinner, etc.) to give you some time during which it would be great to see you make an effort to read it." Tell her how much you would appreciate her taking the time and effort to read it, how important it is to you, how it's not a "sex manual" but rather how it has done a great job of describing how you feel, and how you think (since it's written for both HD and LD spouses) it will probably do a good job of describing how she feels.
Good luck. You've already come pretty far...it took me months to give the book to my wife.
