It has been a while but even though I dont post much anymore I still come by to see how everyone is doing. Just thought I would give a quick update on where I am for those that remember me.
The last few months have been very trying in both my business and marriage but despite this both things are starting to get there. Yes I am still in India and havent got back home yet. Basically I am/was at a stage that I couldnt afford the plane ticket to get back and if I had left, even for a couple of weeks the business here would have wound up.
My decision not to go back at Christmas was, in looking back, a bad one. It hurt my wife more then I realised and from it I found out that she believed I was never coming home. The end result was about 6 weks ago we were almost back to the solicitors again. But this time I realised the pain she was feeling and what she was doing was just striking out because she didnt know what else to do. This time I just left her alone for a few weeks and she got back in contact and said she just wants to be a normal family again and wanted to know that if I was ever coming home.
Its funny in a way, in myself I could never see how she could ever think this, I simply could never ever think about abandoning her. But I do understand the frustration, anger and hurt on her side. So the end result is we are not splitting up, in fact I dont think we ever could, but we do need to see each other again.
I had offered to her to come home tomorrow but I have explained the consequences if I do. I Simply said it is your decision, she thought and said take one more month and see how it goes. So I am. I know things will be fine between us once we get the financial stresses removed and we are able to get back together. She is really looking forward to seeing me and hopefully having a holiday together. She has said she wants to redo our marriage vows, so I take all of this as a good sign. As we went through this bad last bit she did say 'I relaise that no matter how mad I get about you and the situation that through it all I love you dearly'. It was a great thing to here. I just cant screw it up.
So on the other side my business is finally looking up. We have just closed off most of our funding needs and have placed orders for our first 20M of equipment. This should all be finished by the end of next week. I have organised some money to pay off our imediate debts and this should be available for the end of next week. So all being well I will head back to Australia some time next week and hopefully bring this to a good ending.
I have had some very interesting stories here the last few months - drinking with cabinet ministers, princesses and movie stars - On top of this I have been threatened physically by compeitive companies, had people following me, had body guards - all very interesting. Whatever happens this has been a great experiance in India and one that has changed my life and outlook on what is important and what is not. Both from a perspective of relationships and life in general.
Anyway that is a recap on where I am. It has been a long hard road but I can now see the end. My wife is back to supporting me (although with the moments of frustrations) and on that side I am sure that we will make it.
I wish everyone the best and hope 2004 brings good things to all.
Your aussie mate
Andrew
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To go forward you have to put the past behind you
hey Andrew - I thought you were selling the business? Or was it just arranging financing? Would W ever come to India to see you if you have to stay longer?
