Being the LD spouse, I bought both H and I a copy of SSM. I'm almost done and H has read 3 pages in almost 3 weeks. What's up with that?
I have asked him a few times when he is going to read more of it and he just keep saying he will. I don't want to hound him, but I'm starting to feel a little less motivated to make changes when the person who started all this conversation won't read the book.
Geez! If you can manage to go to bed together at the same time, especially during the weekend, can you take turns reading a few pages? Just start reading the book again from scratch, together.
Let him know that you're wanting to work on things and his lack of interest is giving you mixed signals. Remember to start off the conversation with positive comments (like ever since he brought it to your attention you've realized how much he must have felt neglected) and work your way up to how you're feeling... but refrain from suggesting "he's less motivated". Good luck!
I just refreshed my memory on your situation and by the sounds of it, he's very depressed and stuck in a rut. Is he taking any medications? Is he seeing a counselor?
You're right, you can't even come across as hounding him. You mentioned in your other thread that he's been putting off cleaning up the basement. If he hasn't done anything down there yet, can you offer to help him? Maybe doing it together, or at least starting it together, will get him down there?
