For those of you whose wives are *seemingly* refusing to see their doctors, here's something for you to consider...
I asked my doctor many times if she could test my hormone levels or if she could prescribe some kind of testosterone cream but she always told me I'm completely normal and healthy due to the fact that I had problem-free pregnancies. She also dismissed my concerns due to my age (28-31 at the times). We conceived our first child, the very first attempt and she was born right on her due date! Our second child was conceived quite easily as well and he was born 2 days early. Mind you, I'm a plan freak and knew my body (cycle) extremely well.
I can understand how some LDWs might have a difficult time with their doctors because I was one of them! I KNEW something was not right with me and asked my doctor about it but all she could ever offer was the whole new baby/new mom explanation. She never took my pleas for help seriously. Talking with female friends didn't help because they all told me that even if I didn't FEEL like ML, I should try to get into it for his sake. It finally occured to me while seeing my sex therapist and really concentrating on this, that my view was so different from my friends because of the fact that none of them had ever dealt with any sexual abuse.
I also think it is fair to say that if you are not liking what your doc is telling you or you feel like they aren't hearing you, you should think about going to another doctor. No one will know your own body as much as you and you need a doctor who respects your thoughts and opions.
I dealt with vulvodynia (vagina pain, mostly during sex) a couple of years ago. I saw 3 different doctors before I found one that didn't try to just give me antibiotics or tell me it was all in my head.
I agree, but it is difficult to find doctors in my area that accept new patients, especially female doctors. The point I was trying to make however, is that if a woman seeks the advice of her doctor and the doctor keeps telling her there's no problem... I believe the average LD is going to resent the HD for "bugging her" to see a doctor. I can see how some LDs view the problem as something the HD has to "get over."
