Well shoot, I just wrote a lengthy reply to Honeypot and it didn't show up.
In short, I think I answered your question in my first response: I only realized the flaws in my marriage after being divorced and thinking about what I'd like in the next marriage. THen I noticed the many ways in which we didn't share our lives.
Annette, sounds like your marriage has always been difficult. YOu've been through an awful lot with your H.
