I see my divorce comming and I am getting ready or it.. W has me all messed up inside.. I just want it all to be over. Either Married or divorced it doesnt matter anymore.. I am so tired of the roller coaster ride.. I am tired, I am exhausted and I give. The white flag has been risen.. She might not be ready for divorce but I am...
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
If you are tired and have decided that either way is OK for you, just detach, get on with your life, really, drop all talk of divorce or no divorce, just face forwards and move on.
Look to yourself, let your W work out what she wants on her own. You have just said that either say is OK now, so live life like that. Build your own happiness.
Don't react, ACT!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
I am not reacting.. I have been dealing with this for over a year and a half. I am tired. I am worse off now than I was 6 months ago.. Its time to say when.. The fat lady is singing..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
What I meant was, you have been DBing for a year now. Now you are talking of D. Why? Why not just move on in your own life, let you W file for D or not. But you move on whatever... Then the ball is in her court, and you will be prepared for which ever way things go, that's all.
I was merely recommending that you not precipitate D proceedings yourself, that's all.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
I understood what you said. I just am starting to think of myself as better off without her. I am so confused.. I have a month to think over the divorce proceedings. I am giving myself hat month to really think about what it is I really want out of life.. I dont want my life the way it is now, and its not going to change till I become pro-active in myself..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Quote: I just am starting to think of myself as better off without her. I am so confused.
This is precisely the reason why no major decisions should be taken one way or another at this time. If you think the pain is bad now, it will be much, much worse if you are not completely certain about a divorce when all is said and done.
You need to step back and talk to a professional about this. That is exactly what I did to prepare myself for the divorce. I did not initiate proceedings but I did not block them either. I protected myself legally and prepared myself mentally.
But "going through it" wasn't something I could accomplish by myself, even with the help of this board. I had to have one-on-one with a professional, which I still see now even though the divorce happened 7 months ago.
Get yourself a good counselor to get you through these times and do not rush into anything. If your wife complains, tough. Don't let her push you into something you are unsure about right now.
Get yourself on level ground first or else you will be a mess when you get the final decree. I got help and I'm not ashamed to say it. It saved my sanity.
She doesnt really want a divorce. Now.. She just wants to stay separated and be able to date whomever she wants, while I keep paying to Medical/dental insurance through my work for her and the kids.. And to keep the flight benefits.. This way she has the best of both worlds..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
We have been spending a lot of time together an it has been greta but the other night she said she felt smothered so I backed off. Then the dating talk started up again.. Then last night after having a great dinner together she asks me about the neighbors kid. Wondering if she is old enough to babysit our son so she can go out and not have to bother me with watching our son while she is out.. That way she wont have to be back at a specific time for me to go to work.. She is really [censored] in the head.. And I am tired of it.. Thats why I say I am done..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Just be absolutely sure that you want to give her up for the rest of your life because, once everything is said and done, that is likely what will happen. Be sure this is what you want: to never hold her again.
Sorry to be so blunt but that is the most likely outcome, especially is she's [censored] in her head.
Well thats how my life is now, so not much is going to change..Except I wont feel a sense of responsibility for her. To make sure she is taken care of. I will just have to take care of my son..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
