Quote: As I dropped her off at school this morning, I told her, "If I don't manage to talk to Dad today, you can tell him mac & cheese is what's for dinner (it's Ash Wednesday) and that I'll be home by 6:30 to take you and D6 to head to church."
Think of your favorite swear word and picture me screaming it while thumping my head on the desk.
YEP, I forgot all about ash Wednesday! Luckily I haven't eaten any meat today, thought it was only be default since I've been too busy to eat ANYTHING...but church? Not going to happen...DAMN!
Thanks for the reminder...
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
Okay, now that I have some time to actually write...
Quote: On my travels after work yesterday, I decided that my best course of action in my dealings with Mr. Wonderful right now are to detach some more (lovingly, of course).
I think the more detached we become (and STAY) the better off we'll be right now. I think progress tends to lessen the detachment and thus leaves us confused as hell when we turn around and realize how much this alien behavior is affecting us all of a sudden. An invisible string pulls us closer to our marriage as we see progress and we become less detached. If that makes sense.
At least that is what I've seen in myself recently. Getting upset this week over what wouldn't have bothered me last month or the month before. Becuase, I have seen progress and that has jerked my string to pull me closer.
Now, what are your goals in detaching further?
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
1. No calling Mr. Wonderful just to chat--until further notice. 2. Keep our convos on track with what is important and needs to be discussed. Right now, offer no more (he's not in a position to hear me). 3. When he WANTS to talk, be empathetic and validate 4. Stop any thought process that desires to turn the convo to me and what I'm feeling (a strong desire lately) 5. Be his friend.
Am I missing anything?
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
1. I got a manicure and pedicure this past weekend (Dutch Tulip looks great on my toes) 2. I really took our pastor's homily to heart at mass on Sunday. 3. Myrrh just reminded me that D6 qualified for another year of Medicaid assistance! Got the word on Friday afternoon! 4. I worked out at home over the weekend, at the gym on Monday and am going again tonight after services. 5. Lent begins today, and it is a season of more repentance and rebirth. My #1 goal is to work on forgiving Mr. W's parents for the hurt they've inflicted on both of us and our families. 6. I can find more room to love being the new improved me!
Howz that?
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
4. Stop any thought process that desires to turn the convo to me and what I'm feeling (a strong desire lately) 5. Be his friend.
Well, heck, I don't even need to write goals - everybody keeps coming up with great ones for me to steal! And as for the turning the conversation to me" thing - I realized I do that -need to work on that, too. I think you've got it covered, especially with yuor addendum. Always make sure you take care of Betsey! It's just like TripleJ's "Three Rules for a Happy Life, Marriage, and Family" (that's my name for his goals). Hugs, Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
Bob came home with me tonight in a more sedate fashion. We were both a little surprised to find D10 and Mr. Wonderful watching Bruce Almighty... I rented 5 movies from Blockbuster on Saturday and I have only managed to see that one.
Anyway, it had about 20 minutes to go, and I told them to go ahead and finish watching because it was the end and we had time before heading to church. I was actually pretty interested in observing Mr. Wonderful, because I knew what happened at the end of the movie.
Right at the time that Bruce dies, he bolted off the couch. His face was a little red and his eyes were glassy. He started loading plates in the dishwasher while listening. He was putting on D6's shoes when God asked him if he wanted Grace back.... and Bruce said no.... that all he prayed for was for her to find love and be happy.
Mr. Wonderful ran upstairs, got his coat and started exclaiming loudly, "I'M ALLERGIC TO THE CAT! I'M ALLERGIC TO BUTTERFLY!!!!! I HAVE TO GO NOW!" I had to contain myself from laughing... I've had this cat for over a year, and NOT ONCE has he had that reaction to her.
D10 was feeling pretty sorry for her dad, but I smelled a rat. This guy was emotional and ready to cry and didn't want to do it in front of me/us.
Who can recommend some more tear jerkers for me to rent?
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
