I was reading the earlier post where a lot of HDs talked about what their ideal sex life would be like.
Well, I'm the LD person in my marriage, but I have an ideal too!
I WISH I experienced more desire on a regular basis. But I am still trying to figure out why I have such low desire (just bought book the other day).
In fact, I would be happy with having sex with my husband 2x a week. Preferably spontaneous, maybe a quicky here or there. Not the "let's make love" and shut the bedroom door routine. We don't even have kids! On the couch, in the car, in the shower, etc.
My H (really LD or possibly ND) and I (HD) have been in counseling for months now. The counselor told him that he should initiate 2-3 times a week, sadly that hasn't happened. I also would really go for the "outside the bedroom" idea but that hasn't happened either. I have 2 teenagers from a prior marriage, who are both gone a lot, so we do have opportunity.
I think it's great that you're making the effort; I'm afraid that my H not being willing to make that effort (even though he's the one who wanted the counseling) is going to cost us our marriage.
Do not think you are alone in being LD/ND. About 45% of all women are LD. But you must OVERCOME this problem if you wish to keep your husband happy in his marriage. Here is a webpage that talks about restoring desire. Change a willingness for sex into a DESIRE for sex.
