Like many of us with a SSM, I am in the "Low" of this emotional rollacoaster. I was wondering if there is ANYBODY, with ANY good news about their situation?? Please???
I just need to find hope somewhere, since my own is just too pityfull to mention.
I don't know how to cheer you up, so here is some advice from others
-Sir Yard Birdly: For whateth goodeth it doeth a maneth ifeth he-eth getteth noneth. -Saint Gibblet: For which is nobler, to have it or to hold it. -Hans Bigchest: Ya, it isn't missed unless you lost it first. -Greta Bigchest: Ya, finding it is worse than never having it. -Ma Doner: Pickles really are such useful fruits. -Mr. Hardwood: Damn termites.
And my favorite;
"Keep your eyes open, Do your own thinking, and be your own man." --Marshal Dillon--
:-) -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
MSM, Well we are still in counselling, but at just once a month, the same amount as the LM at this point. We went to a Marriage Encounter weekend in October and for a while there was improvement, but January it went back to the old pattern. So I am working hard to get a love life that will be at the best at the extreme low end of tolerable. Oh wait that's not good news, sorry. Ok, I know. My job got re-classified so I now can get paid for overtime! Or we finally got enough snow that the kiddo can go sledding. Or traffic was horrible due to the snow and state budget cutbacks on snowplow overtime. Or we actually went out on a date Saturday to a movie and dinner, of course there was no sex, but why should I think that.
Sorry, MSM, can't help here.
"Satisfaction is not guaranteed." Rule #19 Ferengi "Rules of Acquistition"
What is the low end of tolerable to you? I would be willing to bet that the low end of tolerable is WAY, WAY, WAY, WAY beyond what a ND spouse thinks is enough. For me a GREAT arriage would require at least sex 3 times a week, with lots of touching, hugging, and kissing, MULTIPLE times each and every day. Can a ND woman get to this point? I really doubt it, I would love to hear of one that has!
Well, I hit my low about a week ago, and today was absolutely wonderful. It's also only been two weeks, which is great! Much better than the 3-5 weeks we were at a while back. We do seem to have progressed from that to every 10-14 days on average, with a few backward-sliding time periods... but it's progress, overall!
*grins* Then again, I'm still in that hopeful afterglow, so I may be overly optimistic... But I'm okay with that for now. :-D
*celebrates most happily*
I am turning in revolution
these are the scars that silence carved
on me
