Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming –
WOW -- What a Ride!
Haven't been regular on the BB for the last few days, and was just catching up with you.
It sounds very positive that your H spent time with you recently. I have just had my H spend five nights here at home, and it was a very interesting experience. (full report on my thread!)
As everyone says, the main things is to make the experience a very pleasnat one! I didn't find it hard this time, perhaps with this much distance from the bomb, I don't know.
You need to do things that make you feel good about yourself, so when you meet or talk to your H, you feel good and positive and it shows. That's really all you can do at this stage. But hey, what's wrong with feeling food about yourself?????
Also, I second what someone said about always blaming something like PMS for bad attitudes/moods. It is SOOOOOO easy to do.
Once we make a pact with ourselves, to own our thoughts and decisions and take responsibilty for our actions, it becomes less easy to 'blame' our behaviour on other factors.
If we always have an excuse for our behaviour, it isn't EVER going to change, right?
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
PAM -- Sorry I wasn't around yesterday...too much work!
Zoo has written a powerful post to you...she's captured something that I've been trying to say eloquently to many posters...getting rid of your expectations as to how your spouse "should" behave is KEY. Can you let go of your ASSumptions, Pam about CHL? It's incredibly liberating (and incredibly difficult!) to just say "he is as he is. his behavior is NOT a reflection on me. I cannot define what I think is "right" as it may not be for him".
How are you doing the last day or two? Not sure I've seen too many postings from you?
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
