Does your LD spouse always seem REALLY tired at a normal bedtime. It seems my wife has to have a minimum of 8 hours sleep to function properly, while I can get by on 5-6. So when we go to bed, at reasonable times, I am still EASILY ready for sex, while she acts dead tired. And we both put in long hard days, so it's not like she is overworked in comparison to me. Definitely does not help the sex life.
My H is the one that does get 5 to 6 hours of sleep and I am the one that needs 8 hours or more. I am literally crawling to bed every night and my H is all up and doing his stuff. I don't think is a women or men thing really, I just happen to do a lot more in terms of cleaning and such shores at home after a full day of work at the office, so I am beat at bed time and he is not, so he does not go to bed with me ...EVER.
Cemar, if your wife is very tired by bedtime, can you take over her shores for one day, so she is rested and maybe more receptive to your advances? Just a thought.
My wife is exactly like that. She's a morning person and a LD, I'm a night guy and a HD. Wonder if that's a common pairing? She wakes up in the morning at the slightest noise and can't get back to sleep. I stay up late night working, paying bills, surfing the web, etc. I don't like getting up in the morning. She wakes up 30 minutes before me and I stay up 2 or 3 hours later than her at night. Man, I have to watch out at night, because you can really build up some resentment in 3 hours.
We both share the chores before bed. When we finally get the kids to bed, she always wants to "just relax" and watch TV, then inevitably falls asleep before the show's over. I have tried to tell het to give herself breaks during the day (she's a stay-at-home mom) so that she's not so exhausted. The reality is, she enjoys doing laundry, cleaning, running errands as much or more than the "nighttime chore" of making love with me. So I think she unknowingly tires herself out so that she has a good excuse to avoid sex.
