Hello, Making a long story longer you can go to "I Need support "to get the full story but, in a nutshell.... My wife and broke upo 2years ago and after changes in me we reconciled and then recently we took a bad turn and she didn't know if she wanted to be married (WAW) and she was alomost out the door. We have since last week talked and laughed and made love several times and have had a great weekend. My problem amd the reason I am not off this board completly is that I need help and some suggestions peicing our M back together. We say we love eachother and I have started to listen better and still give her space while being supportive and confident but...it is hard to know what she needs help with and if there is anything that I can do to help her. Does anyone know a book that she might want to read (besides DR or DB) Iknow she needs help and she wants to make positive shanges in her life but if I could just help her a bit (not fix her problems just help her out) anyways I thouhg thatmayvbe somebody could give some advice about peicing things together? I love her and I just want to nort make the same mistakes and really learn this time. I can't keep coming bal to these boards every 2 years.Thank you.
I'm sorry, but I can't seem to figure out what you want to help her with? Do you want to know, in general, how to be supportive without trying to fix things? What kind of books to you think would be helpful to her?
I think if you were more specific, you'd probably get a lot more response.
I don't wnat to fix things for her I realize this. What I do want to do though is maybe buy her a book because when I had some depression last year she had bought me a book and I am reading it now.It is a pretty good look at life. I was hoping that someone may know of a book that could help my wife find herself. The issues last time I was on this board (2years ago) were about me an my problems mostly. This time however the problems are are not 100% mine. She says she doesn't know the individual who is behind mom and wife and employee. She wants to feel less caged. She is ready for help but I don't know what to do with out seeming pushing. The only thing I thought was that I could do what she did for me and gave me a really good book. I can't give her the same book becuase well...becuae of the inscription in the front but also because the book is very genaric for depression and cynicism. I was looking a long the lines of maybe Dr. Phil or something like that. If anyone knows I would be greatful.Thank you.
Please does anyone know of a book that couls help out a mother of 4 who feels like she is caged. This is the esential problem with my marriage with my W. I have db'd and I am dring right now(being positive ,setting goals being upbeat ) I am trying to initiate the intial change and I would just like some advice form some of those who might have had or are going throuhg the same. If there any WAW who have felt this way the I would really like to hear form you, but anyone who has advice would be great. Thank you.
