What up girly girl. I hear your taken a real whippin with the kids. So i guess a large family is out . You deserve that massagefor herdin all those kids. Might I suggest a little Benedryl it will make tham all sleep like babies, a little vino works too. Glad to hear you made the trip good and all went fairly well. Youll have to fill us in on the rest. So much has happened since we last talked but we'll catch up. You be cool sista if you need me call or IM or email. You better be at the beach party or there will be hell to pay Talk to ya Ron
Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming –
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YA YA Miss YOU girl...can't wait till you can chat more regularly....hope all is well and I hope you're sorting through the 'stuff'.
And as for your H not mentioning the letter again since thanking you for it....WELL whadya expect...he's a guy!!! You can bet he's re-read it 100 times already though, I guarantee you that!
T2
thank you all for visiting, it warms my heart to know there are those out there that are thinking about me...
a very brief update, and then i would like some opinions on something...
my niece is doing much better. she is still in some pain. her incision isn't healing like it should (which we all knew would be a problem) but we are watching it closely
it is tiring taking care of 7 children everyday. in california they have year round school, and after this friday it is what they call "off track" which means they are off for a month. now what am i going to do with 7 children everyday??? pray for me!
ok, as most of you remember, i married my husband twice. the first time it was only 2 months after his divorce and in total secret. i lived with him for almost 10 months with absolutely NO ONE knowing we were married. that was in april of 94
we married in full view of everyone in feb of 95 -
we have since celebrated our anniversary in february, instead of april because that is the date everyone knew
yesterday, the 24th, was our anniversary
i struggled with whether or not to send him a card, virtual, so i ended up doing something very generic, and in it i wrote the following:
Quote: good morning,
i had a difficult time deciding whether or not to send you an anniversary card today. the difficulty came not from knowing whether or not i love you, because i do deeply, but whether or not this is really our anniversary.
with all the things that have happened over the last year or so, and all the things that i have thought about our beginnings, i believe that our anniversary should be celebrated the day we married, on april 16, 1994
i didn’t want this day to go un-noticed tho, because it is important to me in that this was the day we finally announced to the world that we were together
so i send this to you, in the spirit in which it was intended - as a note to you that i remember the good things, and please know again that i love you very much.
your wife
suprisingly, he wrote me back, using the same e-card but with the following written:
Quote: This was very thoughtful. I can't really say how I feel about it all, except thank you for your patience and consideration. I do care deeply for you. And I do love my daughter with every ounce of my grain.
I hope your day goes better than yesterday, and I pray you don't get sick!!! And, yes, as I get more and more tired around here, I do appreciate what you accomplish during the day!
THIS IS WHAT I NEED OPINIONS ON
i am having a very hard time with what he wrote me. maybe it's because i am in the forest and i have no one in the helicopter right now guiding me, but this sounds horrible "I can't really say how I feel about it all"
why do i take offense at that? why does that one statement stand out to me like a sore thumb and i feel like total crap because of it
help me please see what his response really means, if you can...
Kitti - you asked a depressed guy to get into a girly convo with you about which day you should celebrate your anniversary on? Sounds like a Mars/Venus moment to me.
Concentrate instead on the fact that he thanked you for your patience - he appreciates your strength - and bring Bob Barker home with you when you get back from California
As for a month with 7 kids out of school? Get them outside, that's all I can say! Are there any day programs at the local city rec center or such?
Oh - and make your future emails to H sweet, funny, clever, upbeat - get Bob Barker to write them for you, okay?
This was very thoughtful. I can't really say how I feel about it all, except thank you for your patience and consideration. I do care deeply for you. And I do love my daughter with every ounce of my grain.
I hope your day goes better than yesterday, and I pray you don't get sick!!! And, yes, as I get more and more tired around here, I do appreciate what you accomplish during the day!
Be more specific, I don't understand what is bothering you?! What part is it that has you upset?
Is it that he doesn't know what to feel or say?
hon, they are all confused. i think he was trying to tell you to keep being patient and hang in there for him. That he is sorting through this whole mess he made and is trying to deal with it. He is also saying is is finding out what a wonderful woman you are and that he appreciates what all you do around there. Basically he misses you! And he seems concerned for your health also.
I see alot of good in his e-mail. Positives~
He wrote back He is concerned for your health He cares about you, but is confused (normal) He loves your D. He misses you both He gives you credit for what you do around the house
Gee, KK, I miss you too! LOL And I hope this post helps you!
It's so good to hear from you! When are you coming back?
Sounds like your H is appreciating all your hard work when you are home! He cares for you and he misses you! I'd be ecstastic if my H said that to me...don't analyze!
. You deserve that massagefor herdin all those kids. Might I suggest a little Benedryl it will make tham all sleep like babies, a little vino works too. Glad to hear you made the trip good and all went fairly well. Youll have to fill us in on the rest. So much has happened since we last talked but we'll catch up. You be cool sista if you need me call or IM or email. You better be at the beach party or there will be hell to pay 
Talk to ya Ron 
