Where is the U-haul going?

[mockers2]

About your H's experiment - focus on the positives!!!!!

Thank you for keeping me thinking.

[hoping]

WOW..Jackie..I have not been around for awhile..but things sound great with you and your h...you have worked hard to make the right changes..to not take it all for granted..I will pray that things keep looking up for you...go girl..

Sue

Thank you so much for caring enough to visit my thread..I don't have much to say anymore

[darkblue]

sounds like u hauling in the right direction

[mockers2]

That's hilarious, darkblue.

How was your weekend, Jackie? I'm thinking of you and your family.

[kml]

Jackie -
you said on Mockers thread:

Should I color it....and his response was you didn't hear everything else I said, all your remember is the mousy part, and it is so true! So now I think I should be a red head! As soon as I lose 50 pounds.

First of all - don't wait around for the weight loss to color your hair, buy a new wardrobe, etc. I know it's a common trap we fall into - I sure did. Now I realize my H wouldn't have SEEN me as fat if I'd put more effort into my appearance, instead of waiting to get "thinner' to buy new clothes, etc. So go for the red hair, (or auburn with your coloring?), buy yourself a black leather jacket at the end-of-season sales, go get a consultation with a makeup person for a new look. Don't wait.

Second - dfb (in separated) and I are going to start a new Body for Life challenge in about two weeks - want to join us? I really need some buddies to kick my behind and keep me honest!

Ellie

[mockers2]

Ellie and Jackie - I'm gam to try body for life with you!

[mockers2]

I meant I'm "game" to try - I never proof my posts!

I was also thinking after reading Ellie's post - coloring my hair always gives me a boost! This might be a real treat for you!

[kml]

Great!
I guess I'd better start a thread in the Just for Fun section so we can get organized.

Ellie

[Dagny]

Ellie, Good advice, as usual, and yes on the BFL, be a good time to start and have some people to stay accountable with.

Hi Mockers and DB! Clever.

Update:

Well, not much to update, actually. H has now been here for two straight weeks. I'm wondering when he is going to cancel the cable, phone, etc over at his place and save some money, but that seems so minor compared to all the wonderful changes that I'm going to keep my mouth shut. He usually stops over there on the way home and brings some more stuff over.

We've been spending the days/nights getting the rooms back in order that we painted and planning some vacations. We have a family vacation now booked for the end of March and a 11 day trip in May for just the two of us. I still have the scared feeling that he will desert me again like he did with Disney in October, but for the most part all the signs are good.

H says ILY about 10 times a day now. Very affectionate. I try and thank him for all the little things that he does. Also, this is one of the most stressful times at work H has ever had and he comes home and will vent about it and then seems happy. We have started the talk when he gets home routine that he and his T came up with. When he gets home we go in another room and spend 10-15 minutes just talking about our day. The kids are to leave us alone and then they know the rest of the evening is theirs until bedtime. Seems to be working out well.

As weird as this sounds, we also came up with some code words to just signal each other when something is getting out of control, we have one for when the other adult is annoying us, (like asking too many questions), one for when the time is devoted purely to kid interests even though it is very boring and one that is for when the kids are driving us nuts. They seem to work, just a quick way to let the other know what is going on.

We haven't had any conflicts, so I don't know if that is conflict avoiding? Nothing to practice our new problem solving techniques!

Just trying to be aware of the power of the words that come out of my mouth and also be honest with me feelings, not let things fester.

Jackie

[mockers2]

Whoooohooooo! Yippeeeee! This is teriffic, Jackie!

I know what you mean about the "no conflict" stage. At first I kept waiting for something awful to happen - I think this is normal. Keep doing what you're doing, though, and focus on the positives and act as if. You are doing great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!