Well now that I have a new thread - the old lock moster tied up the old one - I did have a really good weekend with lots of positives - no time to post details yet and can not post in the morning - have to get my car to the shop by 7 - Heater coil has a leak. (joy joy) Will get some details later though
my last weekend - started out by me going to her place to help her babysit her two granddaughters (2 and 6) we met at a Chinese Restuarant just down the street from her house. after Dinner we went to her place and we played with the kids til time for bed. slept with her but no ML, however, lots of cuddling.
Morning I fixed coffee and we just rested and talked til my Daughter brought over my granddaugher (almost 11) and step granddaughter and (13) we took all them out for breakfast and then on to Cleveland Ga to the Cabbage Patch Kids Factory called "Babyland General Hospital". I helped my Granddaughter "adopt" a doll for her birthday comming up next month. And we got the other girls some of the smaller ones for Christmas. We had a really good time and I think she likes to seem me bond with her grandkids too.
We got back mid afternoon and took all the kids home and ended up at my apartment and she took a nap on the couch. we then drove to her place and got dressed for the office Christmas party we were invited to. Since it was an old friend that I use to work for years ago, I did not know many of the people there but did say hi to a few old friends I had not seen in years. we talked and kidded some and just were having good time. It was early in the evening and the dance floor was empty so she went to the DJ and asked for a slow country song and we got up and started slow dancing by ourselves. She liked to dance with both her hands around my neck and with both of my hands around her waist rather than the triditional slow dance style with my right hand holding her left hand and our other arms around each others waist. not only did we dance really close we also did more than alittle kissing. The DJ played another slow one and we were joined by several more couples but we still did the kissing while dancing thing. Neither of us are what any one would classify as "good" dancers and when the DJ played an faster song we just watched, but after a couple we joined in on a fast one too.
After awhile we decided to go home. I then learned that she had invited her son and his girlfriend over for the night so she could take him to breakfast the next morning for his birthday. While she made light of the fact that since they would be in the Guest Room I would have to sleep with her.
In bed we started cuddling again and after some kissing she told me that she was not in the mood to ML but that she would satisfy me if I needed it. Well, I was in the mood to ML and did not want to just be satisfied by her. Feeling that if she did that she would have some resentment, I politely said thanks, but no thanks.
Next morning we got up and she fixed coffee and we talked with her son and his GF and after a few minutes he took GF back to the back room and gave her a ring. C later asked me if I was OK and if that bothered me and I said I was fine and was really happy for them. We then went out for breakfast.
After breakfast we went back home and were planning on going over to her other son's house for a birthday party for her two Granddaughters (the ones from yesterday) but I had forgotten my presents for them at my apartment, so we went by my place on the way.
While driving she went into a R discussion and it came up that right after the D she felt that I was really working on me but that lately she felt that is was more "obsessed" with her. She also said something about giving me the freedom to date and I told her that I felt that if I started dating someone else that it would be like I had given up on us. I also mentioned that several times right after the Bomb and even several times after the D I was really close to just walking away and totally giving up and that I often get the feeling that she will never be interested in getting back together but rather will be satisfied with just dating for the rest of our lives.
We ended up at my apartment and I needed to take a shower and she did get in with me and we each washed each other's back (she also washed several other places too) But still no ML or much else other than hugs and kisses
We then went to the party. The only place I had to sit there was on a Chase Lounge and while sitting she came over and sat down in front of me and leaned back on me several times. I had told her that when I was with her family since the D I kinda felt like a "fifth wheel" but that I felt that I needed to do things like that. She asked if her leaning against me made me feel better. (well, duh) I told her it did.
Party lasted almost 3 hours and by the time it was over it was getting late on Sunday. I took her home and then after loading some software on her home comupter I went home. Again, like she always does when I leave, she asked me to give her a call when I got home to let her know I got home safe.
Yesterday (Monday) she initiated the IM in the morning and also later in the afternoon and we had plesant chat.
She is a confusing woman - lots of mixed signals over the weekend. After the Weekend I feel that I need to step back and keep working on me while still being friendly with her. We have a date this Friday night to go on a party bus and sightsee all the Christmas lights in the area. I will just take it easy til then and play that night by ear.
Sounds like a wonderful, full weekend! With many positives. But, I know how you feel, she seems to be sending mixed signals to you. Remember "Beiliev nothing they say and only 50% of what they do." C is saying one thing but her actions are showing you something else. Yep, she is confussed.
I'm very proud of the way you handled everything she threw at you. I get a feeling C is testing. And by the looks of things, you made some very good decisions.
just another positive from last weekend - and how could I forget this one - as we were getting ready to go to the Christmas party she told me that while she did get upset with me and tossed her thongs, she did in fact keep one pair and that she was wearing them for me. the then proved it by mooning me. another goal met - she wore thongs for me even though she hates the way they feel.
