Wow! Talk about having something to be thankful for!! You go girl. I'm amazed at the turn around from your H! Take it slow like everyone said and have a wonderful time!! You deserve it. nik
Thanks everyone for your good thoughts and suggestions. They were put to good use. Except for those of you who said thongs are comfortable. They are not. But H seemed to appreciate the effort.
My mom had a bit of a problem watching the kids for us to go on a date. She thinks I am being too nice and making his life too easy, but she doesn't get it. She asked me tons of questions, where I'll be, what time I'll be home, I felt like I was 18 again!
I only told him that we would be driving about 40 minutes to our destination and to wear jeans. He was really looking forward to it. He asked if he could drive. He even made dessert for later and had champagne.
So I picked him up and we (his idea, I was on a time schedule, but went with the flow). We went to a restaurant I've always wanted to try, but a bit too far for a normal drive. Was a little brewery and the beer and food was great. Conversation a little slow to get started, he started talking about going to London together, so I picked up on that and we talked about all we would do.
We then went to play laser tag. We had to wait for our time, so I bought tokens and we played some racing games admist all the teenagers. Then the laser tag was just us and we had a great time. Thanks for the suggestion, Ellie. Rollercoasters and go carts are out this time of year, but this fit the bill perfectly.
We then went back to his place and had champagne (toasted to new beginnings) and . He talked a lot, about not knowing what you have until you lose it, what "my books" say the next step is for us--I said to work on our own stuff, be friends again, and start having fun. He also said that he would hate if my sister would be the reason he didn't come back--he was still angry at her for the questions she asked and not supporting him. I tried to get him to see that she was sticking up for me, but he didn't see it and I dropped the subject, didn't want to ruin a nice evening.
He also said that he believes all the problems we have are fixable. So a lot of really good noises coming from him. The only negative was the phone ringing at 11:30 pm. Work calls him on his cell, no "normal" friends would call at that hour, he usually goes to bed around 9:30-10. So I suspect it is that stupid woman calling, but I did nothing to show I was upset about it. When it rang, he just said, let it ring.
Now we are back to normal conversations, dropping kids off and stuff like that. I'm not quite sure what the next step is. He has his first therapy appointment tomorrow. He talked about retrouvaille, so I might get the info for that, the next weekend is in January.
I'm expecting him to pull back after the closeness. I'm hoping he isn't playing me for a fool.
Quote: Except for those of you who said thongs are comfortable. They are not. But H seemed to appreciate the effort.
Hey, I NEVER said they were comfortable - only that you could get used to them eventually if you really tried!
Good job! Don't sweat the phone call - no ASSumptions, okay?
Now keep doing those 180's and shaking things up, let him wonder what fun new stuff you'll come up with next time (comedy club?)> Workout, buy new clothes, take care of yourself.
(his idea, I was on a time schedule, but went with the flow). We went to a restaurant I've always wanted to try, but a bit too far for a normal drive. Was a little brewery and the beer and food was great. Conversation a little slow to get started, he started talking about going to London together, so I picked up on that and we talked about all we would do.