Elwood, you would be proud, OM called and has left messages which so far have been strong enough to not return! I'm sorry, I thought you were starting to get to see your son.
Good for you, maybe you should change your number.
I see my son each morning, I carry him to school. Me and ex are talking, she even invited me to go to the casinos when we get our income tax refund. So things between me and her are better. It takes patience and a lot of it. Stay calm over everything. If you are doing things as a family then you are in a pretty good sitch at this time, especially with OM still in the picture. I can't say it enough though, cut off all ties with him, even abandon the stuff you have at his place. You made it this long without that stuff, so maybe you really don't need it.
elwood, how long were you divorced? Glad at least you two are getting along. Don't mean to pry, but if you are getting along so good, maybe you should ask for more time with your son. I remember in one of your stiches that you were going to ask this girl out, but didn't. why? If you want to get your marriage back, why did you think about going out with another? Just curious . . . well, have a great weekend, must sign off, ever since my laser surgery on my eyes, I can't look at the computer as long as I used too.
We are still divorced have been since March. We dated from Mid June to 1st week in Aug. Then I drove by her house and seen OM car there. I pried and put pressure on her. She then broke off all dates with me. Son came to live with me at this time. This made things worse. I resolved myself to do whatever it takes to make him and her happy. Even if that meant us not being together. That was and is my way of showing unconditional love. I slowly had son stay more and more with her. Now he is there most all time. Almost a month ago I starte AD's. This has helped me to control my emotions. 2 weeks ago I decided to begin to really do things for myself. A couple of ladies are interested in me and this has helped me to gain confidence and feel good about me. This in turn is showing up in how I interact with her. And I believe that is why she asked me to go to the casino for a weekend when our tax refund comes back. But if I was spending weekends with my ex I would not be thinking at all about going out with anyone else.
From the D bomb to us sleeping together again a few days then h and I had fight because h said the sleeping together was just a pretense to appease me so he could be in house with no fights...then nothing for about 2 1/2 mos..then sex but NO ILY's...then at about 3 mos. I love yous again.
But don't judge your sitch by mine..all are similar and yet very different...I db'd my butt off....and yet lost no weight LOL....but am still db'ing and things are really good..but what's better is things are getting better all the time....
elwood, yeah it must be a good feeling when a member of the opposite sex show interest in you. I sorta miss that, maybe that gave me a boost of confidence as well. Before I worked at a company where I was the only woman (where I met OM) and if something wasn't going right, I had a lot of men I could speak with and when they would talk to me, I would feel wanted/needed. Now where I work there is no men or they are married, so I need to work on my confidence. I am just floating into each day. If I see ex and we get along, fine. At least I get to see him and we will always have a common bond--our daughter. I sit and wait for him to call. He called this past Fri night deciding he is going on a bike ride for 9 a.m. could I pick up daughter for 8 a.m. I asked if he could drop her off tonight so that I could sleep late, he said no, don't think he wants to see the apartment, I don't know why. I would want to check his apartment out--see if there were traces of OW, don't know why he won't come over. I have all these family pictures of the three of us and no traces of OM. Anyway he said no because he was in his shorts and didn't want to change. Sometimes, I will go over to pick up daughter and he is in his underwear, like your my wife, you can see me in my underwear. So there I go Sat morning to pick up daughter (kiss, kiss). Daughter still sleeping and he is cleaning the kitchen, he decided not to go on the bike ride, so I wake up daughter and help with the laundry (kiss, kiss) then he decides to do errands and off he goes. Sunday, okay I'll go for a ride today, so see ya when I get back, then he comes back and says well thanks see ya daughter and I have a family thing to go to. My lips are getting tired of all this --- kissing!
glad things are getting better. I guess as long as you aren't fighting that's a good sign. Just keeping getting along. Hope our h is showing signs that he loves you, just not saying it.
Well, I had the big birthday dinner. I had asked him to dinner and when I was saying I would like, I quickly changed it to me and steph would like to make you dinner on saturday, if you don't have plans. We has all like why do you want to do that, I told him well, it's the big 40 and he told me that he had forgotten all about his birthday. He came and I was so nervous--like on our first date, I cleaned from top to bottom. My daughter kept telling me to calm down its not a "date". Dinner was great, he enjoyed it and loved the cake that our daughter decorated. OUr daughter painted this beautiful arcylic painting of his bike--it was awesome! She got every detail and he was thrilled. He also gave him a model of a Porsche roadster and I gave him a 40 girft cert. He seemed to be impressed with the apartment, liked my furniture and decorating and thought it was bigger than he expected. He came so that's a good sign and I figured he would show up in jeans and a shirt, but he wore chinos and a button down jean shirt with his new shoes and his watch. The watch is a good sign. He only wears his watch, to church, and when he's going out. the next day I was in barnes and noble just looking and ended up walking down a self help aisle and there it was, sitting all alone, the last one--Michele's divorce busting book, took it was a sign and purchased it. So now I guess I read and wait! Hope everyone else is doing well!
I was posting to the thread of 'royalmessup' and you made a reference to where I was when you needed me? Well I am here now. I am happy to see that the bday party/dinner went great. Read the book, twice if you have to.
I am still in the same sitch. W and OM still live together although they have moved to new place together. But she has not refiled for divorce.
But this is your thread. The gifts must have hit the spot for him!!! I hope to keep up with your thread from now on.
HI Harry, glad you are hear now! I hope you and everyone else had a good Thanksgiving. Yeah, the b-day party was great. I had a bummer of a weekend though, just felt like crying and well did! OM still calls me, it is hurt to break up with someone around the holidays. I had to drop off daughter on thankgiving for dinner at 5 p.m. and I wanted to see the ex sister-in-laws new baby, everyone told me go see the baby, she is with your husband then the whole room was silent then they were like your ex husband is holding her. Everyone let us alone in the living room to talk. He asked me to pick up an electric shaver of our daughter for x-mas and he would pay me back later. The next day, I call him to find out the plan, said I could come over anytime, calls me back and asks if I would pick up milk, of course I said sure. I pick up daughter and he leaves for his brother's house and before he goes asks me if I'm going by the post office of course I said yes and he asked me to mail a bill for him. I asked him if it needed to be stamped for today and he said no. When I was at the post office my daughter made an interesting observation--ma, why did he ask you to mail his bill when he cold have brought it to the mailbox for pick up on Monday? and I was like yeah, doing little errands like we are married. My sister came over sat night to see the apt. I wanted her to see my dog that my ex-h is keeping for me. Didn't think ex was home but he was and the three of us sat down and had a good conversation, like old times. Like we were married. Well, I am babbling. I had a confusing weekend,why is he asking me to do all these little things for him--am I now slave girl??? I hope things are well with you--you will have to fill me in on your progress
