Right now my marriage is pretty much on the rocks and I am doing more DB then anything else. Once I get back on to better terms with her, then maybe I can start pushing the sex a little more. One big problem I see is that LD spouses, when you start giving them all of this quality time and attention, they think that we have changed and now WE like this. They don't want to realize that WE only do this to get them to become sexual. The other problem I see with LD spouses is that they really have no CLUE as to what an acceptable amount of sex is. My wife actually thinks that I shouls be happy with sex twice a month. THAT IS INSANE! I could have sex twice a day and never tire of it.
Right now, I have three small children, and I can not imagine living away from them, so I am willing to suck it up and put up with my fridgid bitch wife as long as possible. I am going to give it my best shot with changing me, and praying to God to help me, but I am not optimistic, since virtually no one on these boards has any track record with fixing this type of problem. I keep thinking of Dr. Gary Smalley and his 20+ years of marriage counselling. He says that 90% of all the marriages he works on require him to teach the wife to become a better lover. 90% of all problem marriages are because the wife became LD! Amazing!
LL, I haven't forgotten, I'm just running short on time but will post later if you'd like. It's only MHO, but I really do understand where you are coming from...
