HOME AGAIN....ROUND 2

[Trying24now]

Rachel,

Your input is invaluable to me, thank you.

You said:

They are going to feel justified in what they did (I don't care what they say to the contrary) for quite some time. The only thing you can do is keep making him glad that he came home.

I think that idea sticks in my claw. I have trouble (ego gets in the way) that I'm suppose to feel grateful that my lying, cheating, scoundrel of a H has come home...whooptie doo. Lucky me! Stupid me thinking HE should be grateful that I want him back. God this is so one sided, is it always going to be about what's best for THEM, while our needs, feelings, and wants, take a back seat so THEIR fragile egos get stroked? Haven't THEIR egos been 'stroked' enough already?

GROWL.... gee venting really IS fun.
T2

[KutieKat]

oh my god, too much to assimilate this early in the morning

i am coming back to this one, let me tell you

{{{t2}}}

kitti

[sunseeker]

T2~ I have caught up on your sitch. You sound good and I think it is great that you are coming here to vent. Missed you!

[Trying24now]

Kitti,
Loved our chat yesterday it was terrific and afforded me an opportunity to vent some heavy stuff.
Thanks so much. You're a great DB pal.
T2

[Trying24now]

Hi SUN !!!!
Thanks for popping in. It's great to see you. I will be over to visit your thread soon.
T2

[Trying24now]

OKAY...thanks especially to Kitti and Deb, TODAY I'm only posting positives.

After chatting with the two of them yesterday and dumping a lot of garbage, I can start with an 'empty' can this morning.

YESTERDAYS POSITIVES:

My H came home early from work so that we could go out to dinner.

While waiting to be seated at the restaurant my H stood behind me and held me, he was very warm and fuzzy.

We had a nice dinner and a pleasant evening and when we went to bed HE INITIATED....(no wonder I'm in a better mood today...a little somethin somethin goes a long way )
T2

[BA42]

Hi there! Your thread reminds me of last year when I came back home after being separated. My W never make me feel really welcome anymore, and soon the same problems started again, my resentment picked up, and now we are divorcing. If I would have read your thread last year, I might have been married still, and might have understood her feelings better. Please try to understand his feelings too. Piecing is really hard!

[KutieKat]

hey t2

i am SO glad you posted today, and your sounding REALLY good!!!! i was worried about you, but see, you got a little somethin and all is right in the world!!! LOL

i wish i could get a little somethin! LOL

have a great day t2

kitti

[imalright]

T2,
Glad to hear you are much better today and glad we could help you! Kitti and I chatted this morning.
The friends called and wanted to go golfing Sat. So I called H and he said he had plans Sat. He said can't we go on Sun. I told him the wife doesn't have Sundays off. I said, "Oh well, maybe next year" He seemed disappointed. But that's his problem. He always had Sat. free before now all of a sudden starting last Sat. he has plans. All I got to say is," can't have your cake and eat it too. He needs to make a decision. I'm not making him make it, it will have to be his choice. Anyhoo, the couple and I are going Sat. without H. Don't need him to go. He should of said let's the two of us go, but he didn't. maybe he is afraid of being alone with me.
Deb

[holdingon]

Go T2!!! Awesome on the positives!!!

Deb,
I absolutely think he doesn't want to be alone with you... way too much guilt there, I think.