So many skills to learn and only one life to get it right?
The manual never goes out of date, school is always in session, and the Teacher is always available for questions and answers.
Hope that you and H can carve out some time for just you two. I know that the kids can take a toll, but remember, they have a vested interest in this too.
One note of caution for H going to therapy - don't expect an overnight transformation of behaviors. It will take time for H to develop new ways of handling things. Keep your expectations low initially.
Well 13 months since the bomb hit and finally my husband said I love you. Unfortunately it was after I was freaking out a little bit about the fact that all the love and affection physically and verbally can't just come from me. One thing I do know is that H cannot be bullied into doing or saying anything to me. He wanted to say it..........
Anyway in therapy we are tackling our budget and money. My H is very money centered and my therapist knows that this is a big issue for him where love and affection and having fun are tops on my list. BUT the only reason I don't worry more about money is because I know H worries about it for me.
Three kids and three college educations are on his mind big time.
Anyway it seems like he is home for good staying every night and told me his intentions are working it out.
I reviewed my old thread on Newcomers. It is still to painful to look back to that nightmare. I wish I could help everyone who was in that deep primal pain that I felt last year.
Anyway kids are sooooooo happy he is back. The 11 and 8 year old are back to being normal. The 2 year old just walks around saying mommy-daddy mommy-daddy. Like it is his mantra or something.
13 months after H left he is home for good. He moved his things back and that was that. Amazing how different they are when they truly want to work on it. Sometimes I have to try so hard not to "ruin" it when he is being nice or working on things. I have to remember that punishing him for the past will only effect our future.
I am still not sure where your post the whole success story? Any help out there....
