I am working to overcome worry, fear and anxiety. Making significant strides and it is an active conscious choice to keep after my freedom in these areas. Really, it is so important to me that I continue to heal and also I am choosing to be patient with myself.
You must look out for yourself and kids. I have learned to just put her out of my mind, my ex that is.. When I was in the Navy. Before we would speak on the 1MC, an sound system that went throughout teh Submarine for all to hear, we would always think about what we were going to say and how, so it was clear. Before responding with emotional texts, think and say yes, no or dont respond at all.
Had a great day, taking care of business. Focused where I wanted to be. Got a lot of work done. Went out and played ball tonight. W and MIL came out to watch. That was fine. I didn’t take it to mean anything more than they came out to be a part of a community event members of our family were involved in. MIL told me how much she loved it. I had a blast. After I went out for beers with the team.
I play on our church team with D and S. I imagine D invited her.
Please don't take this harshly, I am honestly confused. I thought your son had a disability that required you to have to talk to your wife way to much, but if I'm reading this correctly he plays basketball? Again, I'm confused, I'm not trying to question anything, just understand.
Alright, well if your daughter invited her, and you didn't know, there's not much you can do about that, but can we please find other GAL activities that don't require your kids or any chance of running into her?
I've seen you get a lot of top shelf advice over the last 7 or 8 months, I've also seen you ignore quite a bit of it. In honor of a former member.....you can ignore reality, but you can't ignore the consequences of ignoring reality.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
Been wanting to say this for a while. interested at the forum thinks. Rockon would you be ok when you send posts that are obviously against all the advice that you’ve been given and against anything in the books that someone would call you out. then you go back into the threads read all the advice people spent time giving you. Look at all the recommendations. Look through the book and come back to us and tell us why you were called out and what you can do next time better.
This way, you’re not gonna get a whole bunch of replies from frustrated people that feel they have told you or have heard other people tell you over and over again recommendations how to deal with the situation. you can go back, figure it out and tell us then the people on here could see you’re doing it on your own
M:51 W:43 T:17 M:15 S:13 D11 10/2022 BD/IHS 03/2023 W moves out
Hey Joseph, I’m not ignoring advice. I am learning and being responsible and accountable and making counterintuitive changes as well. I am reading DR again and carefully and thoughtfully considering various perspectives and I’m finding this forum helpful and I’m very thankful.
Eldest S is a player/coach in the team as am I. D plays on the team. I picked up S21 yesterday to watch and be with family/community (I knew my family would be there).
I am soberly examining reality and am aware of consequences good and bad.
He is residing in a care facility with a multidisciplinary care team. I take him for passes and overnights etc. W is collaborating with me on advocating as family for his care needs. S25 is an excellent big brother and supports S21’s care needs. My parents also support. MIL is an important connection in his life as well.
