Rock you are very good at trying to justify your nice guy tendencies. If your neighbor was treating you like your W was treating you would you help your neighbor move? You have been trying to nice her back for several months and it isn’t working and will never work. You are digging yourself a hole that is going to be difficult to get yourself out of and that my friend is a bitter pill to swallow.
Will consider this more. Thank you for your input gentlemen.
What does that mean?
I feel frustrated when you give us vague statements when we have repeatedly asked you to be very specific. If you are not specific, we can't help you brainstorm new ways of interacting with W.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
After ball got rained out last night, I went out dancing with friends. Got stuff done today and going out for a beer with friends now then having S over to watch a movie. Going into the mountains tomorrow with both Ss for the weekend.
It’s important to me to consider more. If what I have done is off track, I need to take a good look to see if there’s something for me to change. This is important to me. I don’t want to stay stuck.
R2C - I am responding to W on my time and my terms. I am not being defensive but rather taking time and patience to listen and taking time and care with my responses to her. I am moving forward with what I believe is my right path congruent with my values.
I haven’t figured it out. But I am making progress. There are times when her actions or reactions/texts to me just are so far out in left field I don’t know how to respond so taking time helps.
W asked if we could talk. I made some time available. She voiced some of her fears about S21. I took time to listen and validate her concerns and committed to involving S and collaborating with his treatment team along with W. She voiced her appreciation for all I am doing for him and our family. I said this is all very important to me.
Im up in the mountains with both Ss. A great place to be.
