Cruising around and working on old cars used to be my thing. I loved it and miss it. I've also always wanted a street bike. I know a lot of people that ride and that could provide me a new experience in life. A new community to associate with.
Sounds like you would be GAL in a big way.
Originally Posted by MikeP
I'm a pretty simple (boring) person. I don't know which stage or facet of this journey I'm in. I do struggle with feelings of depression at times. Mostly I seem confused.
I get it, this it is a good reason why our W leave. So if you financially can get a bike. Do it then you become more attractive to your W. If you go out with your friends biking you become more mysterious to W and she will want to know where you’re at, and want to be with you, and then hopefully W becomes attracted to you again and respects you more. To me this is all part of the divorce busting principles.
I agree with you and I really just want a bike. My main motivation is something new to me that I can enjoy. Thanks.
Dunn posted over on Rock’s thread that playing happy family didn’t work out and hasn’t worked for others. That is a concern of mine that I didn’t properly express in earlier post. Not sure how to deal with that scenario. Also, my father in law has been in the hospital for a couple of weeks. Now he’s in rehab and will be home in a week or so. He will require a lot of attention and my mother in law can’t do it. W is currently taking care of her like a fourth child since he’s been gone. She’s let herself get in a physical state that is sad. Lots of stress W and myself. I keep my opinions about mother in law to myself obviously and help as needed. My father in law is such an active guy and it’s hard seeing him go through this. He should be fine eventually but it may be a long road.
Cruising around and working on old cars used to be my thing. I loved it and miss it. I've also always wanted a street bike. I know a lot of people that ride and that could provide me a new experience in life. A new community to associate with.
Sounds like you would be GAL in a big way.
Originally Posted by MikeP
I'm a pretty simple (boring) person. I don't know which stage or facet of this journey I'm in. I do struggle with feelings of depression at times. Mostly I seem confused.
I get it, this it is a good reason why our W leave. So if you financially can get a bike. Do it then you become more attractive to your W. If you go out with your friends biking you become more mysterious to W and she will want to know where you’re at, and want to be with you, and then hopefully W becomes attracted to you again and respects you more. To me this is all part of the divorce busting principles.
I agree with you and I really just want a bike. My main motivation is something new to me that I can enjoy. Thanks.
I forgot to include that you’re doing this for yourself not your wife but if there’s a chance with your wife, these are great examples of what you need to do. In the end you are a better person
M:51 W:43 T:17 M:15 S:13 D11 10/2022 BD/IHS 03/2023 W moves out
So Mike what do you see as your way forward as it relates to family stuff with W. What ideas are you considering?
I’m reevaluating everything.
Not sure. The biggest thing is getting out and GAL more. We’re together a lot but usually just at home. We occasionally do things on the weekends. A big part of our life revolves around d13 and her sports. High school bball just ended. Now she has middle school track, high school softball, and travel softball. Doesn’t leave much free time until June when school sports end. At that point our weekends are booked with travel sb tournaments but we will be free during the week. Good time to get out and do some riding in the evening.
Mike, Thanks for your thoughts on including W in family events. It makes it hard to exclude when I’m the same house. We are technically in an IHS situation, but really it’s separate bedrooms. Having S6 I cave too easily on some DB items to make sure he is taken care of and happy. It’s tough being in the same house, but I’m not sure I want her out either lol. Keep on walking forward my friend.
Yep, doing pretty good. Things are just kind of “normal”. W is stressed out over her parents health issues and I’m being supportive. Despite her stress she has been a lot more like her old self lately. I’m in a good frame of mind and just doing my thing. Thanks for asking. How bout you?
