You don’t “have to” follow me and make judgy comments or act like an arse to use your own words—you do you. Your antics have silenced and driven away quite a few posters.
For any newbies without my backstory, before I was left behind in the relationship that brought me to this site, I took my kids and left an XW who physically abused my son. I remained a primary custody dad for over a decade. I’m not just unapologetic, I’m proud I endured the hardships to do what was right by them and proud of who they are becoming as they enter adulthood.
Mikey P not confuse you he’s saying he reported to the board moderators. He doesn’t go by the creed “snitches get stitches”. Just think you should read people’s threads before you take advice from them.
I always recommend “how to be a 3% man by Corey Wayne. Teaches how to be attractive by taking the lead and being direct and decisive.
Traveler it's been like 10 years since you walked out on your ex-wife and you had one girlfriend outside your girls group so yeah choosing your gurus is wise.
Um, this ^^^^^^^^^^^^ this is worthy of a call to the mods? Seems akin to calling 911 to get those darn kids off your lawn. What at all is possibly wrong with giving this advice to ANYONE here about ANY of the posters? Scheese. I guess it goes with the rest of the left world where rather than debate the merits, they try to silence the poster. I vote we run this board like the new Twitter where everyone gets to speak their mind. As long as there is not name calling (there wasn’t) as long as there is no overt bullying (there wasn’t) as long as race, religion, sex, etc is not criticized (it was not), we should be able to express our viewpoints and offer our thoughts. Anyone is free to disagree by stating their case. The cops have better things to do.
As for the whole alpha thing, why is it usually the beta boys who take issue with being alpha? I don’t get it.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
Seems akin to calling 911 to get those darn kids off your lawn.
My dogs got off my property a few weeks back. The kid (20ish) that found them called 911 to find out what to do. Both dogs had my phone number and one had my address on their collars.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
I've started watching a guy named Rich Cooper on Youtube. A lot of good stuff about not being a beta. I'm going to check out his book.
Mikey P I would be careful with his stuff. That would not go over well with your W right now.
Yeah, the more I have watched I see what you’re saying. I also am following Christopher Canwell. He has a book out, Atomic Attraction. A lot of the same principles that are taught on here.
I've started watching a guy named Rich Cooper on Youtube. A lot of good stuff about not being a beta. I'm going to check out his book.
Mikey P I would be careful with his stuff. That would not go over well with your W right now.
Yeah, the more I have watched I see what you’re saying. I also am following Christopher Canwell. He has a book out, Atomic Attraction. A lot of the same principles that are taught on here.
His philosophy while accurate to a degree he does come off as an ahole sometimes. Your W would not be open to that right now.
Everyone has an opinion and as long as the opinion is not disrespectful, you are welcome to post. We have newbies, walkaways, MLCers and divorced posters posting on all of the forums at one time or another. There is nothing in the policies that state that they can't post. Each poster has the capability of taking from the postings what they can use and what they can't. We advised each of you of this when you first began your journey. No two pieces of advice will be the same and you have to figure out what works for each of you.
However, when the bullying and snarking start, then it's time to take a good, long, hard look at what you are posting to each other. One of the bullets in the Board policies states that we must be respectful of one another here. If you can't be respectful, then you have several choices 1) ignore the posting and move on to the next one; 2) take a chance on being put back on moderation and/or 3) being banned. I don't like to go straight to banning, but if the need arises, I will put in the request.
People, we are all adults here...act like it! If you don't like someone or don't have respect for the poster, then do not address the posting and in fact, don't read their thread. Your personal feelings about someone need to remain with you and not on this public forum. In other words, if you can't say something nice, then don't say anything.
Now, let's all get back to the business of helping each other and let's all be mindful that people from all over the world are reading your postings. Yes, that's right, people do not need to be members to read the postings. From this day forward, I want to see posters being mindful of what they are postings. Read your postings prior to hitting the submit button and ask yourself "is this the type of response that I would want to receive from someone".
I am more than happy to delete and/or clean up the postings of yesterday if you want me to.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Over the last 6 days (roughly) I have been doing a much better job following the advice I've been given, especially GAL and giving her space. I can tell when she is around me that it's confusing to her. Best way I can explain it. She seems much more interested in me and what I'm doing or going to do. Last night I went to bed early, she even seemed confused about that. I'm usually kind of a night owl but I had a good work out and ran some intervals, so I was beat. At some point during the night we both woke up and she asked if something was wrong. Nope, everything is great. This morning she asked if I needed to tell her something. Nope, everything is great. She has initiated sex twice in this time frame, not like her at all. This change in dynamic is nice and now I really want to double down. I think detachment is slowly creeping in. I don't worry at all about what she's up to like I was, especially while she is at work with the Troll. My name for him, first time I've used it here. One morning last week I woke up and was lying in bed and it just hit me- she hasn't treated my right for 8 mos after admitting to an affair. She probably wants him still. I'm not going to waste any more time worrying wether she will choose me over him, she either will or won't and I will get on with my life. Don't get me wrong if she chooses to leave me, I will of course be sad. Probably more than I can imagine right now. I guess I'm accepting it and moving forward. Deep down I had already accepted that she would leave again, and it was hard to cope with. I still want to reconcile if we can, but I think I'm to the point of understanding I won't die if we don't. As always, thanks for all the advice and keeping me on track.
to find out what to do. Both dogs had my phone number and one had my address on their collars.